Why is it that every guy I end up dating ask to borrow money? (woman, cheat)
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I meet them at work so they obviously got jobs I don’t k ow why they ask me they get paid every week like me same amount none had kids except one guy who’s son was over 18 so I don’t know I met them at work one guy had nerve tell me he don’t hang around ppl that burn spend money but yet guy asked me for $500
The thing is, at this point it doesn't matter why they asked you for money so much as why you were foolish enough to give it to them when they asked.
Hopefully, you gleaned some valuable lessons from these experiences and will have better results in future relationships now that you know enough to use your words and say "no" when asked for money.
The recent guy who dumped me I know for a fact he wanted to borrow more money he wanted to ask me I’m 100% silver bet then he said never mind forget it I felt that awkward vibe I think he was feeling
I wonder if you are giving off a desperate vibe. Does every man you date ask for money, or just these 3?
I meet them at work so they obviously got jobs I don’t k ow why they ask me they get paid every week like me same amount none had kids except one guy who’s son was over 18 so I don’t know I met them at work one guy had nerve tell me he don’t hang around ppl that burn spend money but yet guy asked me for $500
OK, we don't know why they ask you for money, but we also don't know why you keep saying yes to each guy. That's strange, OP. You need to say something like, "Oh, I"m sorry. I'm looking for a guy who can live within his means and is financially disciplined. I'm afraid you and I aren't compatible. It's been nice getting to know you though! Good luck in your search for a partner! "
Wow. You are the queen of bad judgment. What did they say this money was supposed to be used for?
"Being there" for someone means providing emotional support, not paying their bills for them. You want to give money to someone, you need to have it put IN WRITING that it is a LOAN, not a gift, and that they are expected to pay it back, and include details of the agreed-upon installments.Sign and date it and have it notarized, and the guy gets a copy of it.
Otherwise, good luck, sweetie, in seeing that money again. Small claims won't give it back to you without proof that it is a loan instead of a gift.
Disagree. Never loan money unless you are 100% willing to never get a cent of it back.
Yes I do have issues being alone cause I have low self esteem and see hotter girls I was cheated on before and left for another girl but now I made promise myself not loan money and I’m not looking to date for along times couple years I give them money to avoid end relationship cause I think that’s only way they stay I buy them things
Yes I do have issues being alone cause I have low self esteem and see hotter girls I was cheated on before and left for another girl but now I made promise myself not loan money and I’m not looking to date for along times couple years I give them money to avoid end relationship cause I think that’s only way they stay I buy them things
Well, why didn't you say this at the beginning of the thread, instead of telling us you give them money because you believe that's what a good "supportive" gf should do? You're trying to buy their loyalty (or commitment), and it's not working.
I’ve dated about 4 guys and they have all asked me for money even when just starting the relationship couple days weeks into the relationship they ask for money I don’t know maybe it’s me that attracts these types of men but they have jobs and that’s how met at work
because you're a bad girl looking for a bad boy. bad boys may not have steady employment because theyre out on parole for assaulting their previous baby momma. hence they need a new girlfriend and allowance money
The next time one of them asks you for money, tell them, "Holy Cow, I'm broke. I was going to ask you for a loan."
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