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Been with my SO for almost 7 years and the one thing that has really come up too many times that caused either a rift or sometimes a brief breakup has been the financial lies and in particular, saying something that doesn't really reflect how bad it is or not saying anything at all when the information is very relevant.
I know my SO loves me very much and is good for me in some respects but the last fight was it for me....I feel like we are really stuck in a cycle despite my SO's promises to change.
I haven't been perfect myself in that b/c of the lies, I fight back b/c I don't know how else to deal with it.
The bottom line is that I believe my SO despite the good heart and loving me, has an issue with the outside appearance of things and this is just another example.
So....here we go again. My SO asks how will the SO show me that there has been change in transparency unless we are together again? I say I don't want to get back together unless and until I see change. Who's right and who is wrong?
I've been hurt so many times by the lies I don't know if to give another chance or if I do, how I go about it.
if anyone has any thoughts I'd appreciate you sharing.
Hon, your adult children hate him for a reason. Listen to them. And listen to the many posters here who have advised you as to this boyfriend over your many "first" posts. Do NOT let him back in your life.
When a relationship becomes toxic, there's little you can do. Your OP is a little confusing without pronouns. In any case I gather you have tried, failed and are on a cycle that keeps getting worse. When the trust is gone, its over.
Hon, your adult children hate him for a reason. Listen to them. And listen to the many posters here who have advised you as to this boyfriend over your many "first" posts. Do NOT let him back in your life.
Am I missing something, isn't this the first post???? Who has advised before when this is the first post?
I thought you said a couple of days ago that you were done with him? WHY are you still asking these questions? WHY have you NOT blocked him already and moved on?
Look, do what you want. It's really clear to everyone here who has repeatedly tried for years to tell you what you need to do, that you obviously enjoy this drama and merry go round and you'll never stop this. So, do what you want.
Been with my SO for almost 7 years and the one thing that has really come up too many times that caused either a rift or sometimes a brief breakup has been the financial lies and in particular, saying something that doesn't really reflect how bad it is or not saying anything at all when the information is very relevant.
I know my SO loves me very much and is good for me in some respects but the last fight was it for me....I feel like we are really stuck in a cycle despite my SO's promises to change.
I haven't been perfect myself in that b/c of the lies, I fight back b/c I don't know how else to deal with it.
The bottom line is that I believe my SO despite the good heart and loving me, has an issue with the outside appearance of things and this is just another example.
So....here we go again. My SO asks how will the SO show me that there has been change in transparency unless we are together again? I say I don't want to get back together unless and until I see change. Who's right and who is wrong?
I've been hurt so many times by the lies I don't know if to give another chance or if I do, how I go about it.
if anyone has any thoughts I'd appreciate you sharing.
The bolded is not what you told us last week. You said he's abusive of you and caused bruises after the last fight. The advice you get here will not change, no matter how many threads you start.
No, this person creates 2 or 3 new identities a week and posts the same story each and every time.
Oh, gotcha. I only drive by a few times a week so I missed that.
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