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Old 09-22-2019, 01:04 PM
 
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When you match with someone on OKCupid and then there is no conversation that follows. Why would someone who is serious about meeting now start a conversation? i guess this is all the things you can expect to happen in the online dating site world.
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Old 09-22-2019, 01:11 PM
 
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When you match with someone on OKCupid and then there is no conversation that follows. Why would someone who is serious about meeting now start a conversation? i guess this is all the things you can expect to happen in the online dating site world.
Not sure I understand.. are you saying you matched, sent a message, and got no response? Either they changed their mind about you, or weren't interested in the message you sent. Or the profile is inactive, and they never even saw your message.

I disagree that this makes the profile fake - a fake/spam profile would be more likely to respond (usually in broken English) since they are trying to get something from you.
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Old 09-22-2019, 01:22 PM
 
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Not sure I understand.. are you saying you matched, sent a message, and got no response? Either they changed their mind about you, or weren't interested in the message you sent. Or the profile is inactive, and they never even saw your message.

I disagree that this makes the profile fake - a fake/spam profile would be more likely to respond (usually in broken English) since they are trying to get something from you.
Saw this lady's profile who seemed like someone I would go for and I was then notified it was a mutual match and once I started the conversation with Hello how are you doing today? I never get a response?
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Old 09-22-2019, 01:27 PM
 
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Saw this lady's profile who seemed like someone I would go for and I was then notified it was a mutual match and once I started the conversation with Hello how are you doing today? I never get a response?
She may get a lot of matches. Have you considered sending more personal message explaining what you liked about her profile, and asking her something specific about one of your common interests? (This is general advice, not suggesting that you follow up now with this one.)
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Old 09-22-2019, 01:30 PM
 
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No this does not necessarily mean it is fake. She could be busy.

Also, 'Hello how are you doing today?' is a bit of a boring message. I agree with what riffle said.
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Old 09-22-2019, 01:36 PM
 
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No this does not necessarily mean it is fake. She could be busy.

Also, 'Hello how are you doing today?' is a bit of a boring message. I agree with what riffle said.
well what else should the 1st message be besides hello and how are you? I have also said How is your sunday going?
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Old 09-22-2019, 01:49 PM
 
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well what else should the 1st message be besides hello and how are you? I have also said How is your sunday going?
Where does the conversation usually go after you open with "how are you?"
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Old 09-22-2019, 01:55 PM
 
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Where does the conversation usually go after you open with "how are you?"
How is your Sunday going I thought is a good way to open things up. Or maybe I should say something sexual?
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Old 09-22-2019, 01:59 PM
 
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How is your Sunday going I thought is a good way to open things up. Or maybe I should say something sexual?
No, I definitely wouldn't do that.

What I asked was, where does the conversation usually go after you open with "how are you?" Or is this the first time you've used online dating?

Did you read post #4?
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Old 09-22-2019, 02:00 PM
 
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No, I definitely wouldn't do that.

What I asked was, where does the conversation usually go after you open with "how are you?" Or is this the first time you've used online dating?

Did you read post #4?

Well I would expect someone to say I am fine and talk about how their weekend was? Why would that be so hard for someone to answer?
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