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Well I wouldn't say the guy's name on the internet, where he lives isn't relevant either.
He did tell me his company is late with his paycheck and that's why he can't afford to go on a real date.(He works for a Fortune 500 company for over ten years now, I can't imagine a company like that is late with paychecks but whatever.) Then he blew up, exploded in anger that I do not "trust" him. Started to launch in with name-calling. But I canceled the date anyway.
Glad you cancelled it. If he really works at a Fortune 500 company it is extremely unlikely that they were late with the paycheck. It sounds like you dodged a bullet.
Exactly, this was most likely a shameless lie. Fortune 500 company not making their payroll would be national news. After which they will cease to be a Fortune 500 company.
When I dated, an invitation to someone house would usually mean having sex or at least heavy petting. Absolutely nothing wrong with that of course but OP did not sound ready. So it is good that she canceled...
For the second date he called and arranged for us to watch TV at his house Friday night. He doesn't have netflix or cable so it would just be whatever is on TV. Is this normal for a second date? Would you go to a man's house for the second date if you did not know him that well?
Hell no. A 2nd date should still be at a place where there are other people around...NOT his house.You know this is the truth.If someone doesn't have the money to date someone properly, then they shouldn't be dating.
When getting to know someone, their home should not be a place you go in the very early stages of dating.
You say you don't feel comfortable and suggest going somewhere else.If he doesn't like that...then forget it and move on.
Well I wouldn't say the guy's name on the internet, where he lives isn't relevant either.
He did tell me his company is late with his paycheck and that's why he can't afford to go on a real date.(He works for a Fortune 500 company for over ten years now, I can't imagine a company like that is late with paychecks but whatever.) Then he blew up, exploded in anger that I do not "trust" him. Started to launch in with name-calling. But I canceled the date anyway.
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this is legitimately scary.
I agree. I suspected that he just wanted to dive into sex, without any expensive preliminary steps like taking you out on more dates and actually getting to know you.
And, if he "exploded in anger" and then started "name-calling" when you told him that you weren't going to his house, you really, really saved yourself from a potentially dangerous situation.
For the second date he called and arranged for us to watch TV at his house Friday night. He doesn't have netflix or cable so it would just be whatever is on TV. Is this normal for a second date? Would you go to a man's house for the second date if you did not know him that well?
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carrcollie, I was prepared to take up for this guy, and suggest maybe he got some very misguided advice to ask a woman to just watch TV at his house for a second date, to ferret out gold diggers who just wanted him to spend money. That it was sort of going to be a quick test to see if you are interested in being with him, or just him buying you food and entertainment.
But no. After reading that garbage about his paycheck being late, and then he pretty much verbally attacked you, so long. Bu Bye.
Of course, because every man is a potential rapist. As usual, feminists have zero respect for men...
Wrong.
I am a long-time feminist who respects people who earn respect, and trust is not something one should hand over blindly, to a man or woman. Has nothing to do with respect. Should a woman walk down a dark alley alone at night to prove her respect for a group of people, that is, men?
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and then started "name-calling" 
when you told him that you weren't going to his house, you really, really saved yourself from a potentially dangerous situation.
