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I am in a fairly new relationship with someone I really like and in many ways he is a great lover however I am starting to feel resentful over the lack of reciprocation in the sexual relationship, not because he doesn't focus on me (he does), but that he wants things from me he's not willing to reciprocate.
For example: He doesn't do a type of act for me that Mod cut. but wants it from me a lot.
Mod cut.
He doesn't do Mod cut. but wants something along those lines from me, every time for himself (not a mutual act). I don't even want this from him, but it just bugs me that he wants it from me but wouldn't be willing to reciprocate if I did want it.
Am I being unreasonable or maybe we're not compatible and I need to end it sooner rather than later. Finding out this stuff has made me like him less... I don't know how to broach it as he said he doesn't want to do these things and I don't want to put pressure on him. I am an extremely clean person (shower twice daily and do not live in warm climate) and never encountered a guy who has these hang ups before, at least not since I was a teenager and sleeping with another 16 year old.. The biggest issue is the second one I mentioned where there would be no sex for 1/3rd of the month.
He is quite young (11 years younger than me.) I know he finds me extremely attractive.
Sorry if too graphic if so feel free to delete. Hard to keep this PG13 but this is a genuine issue. I'm sad about it
Last edited by PJSaturn; 10-06-2019 at 11:46 AM..
Reason: Not PG-13; TMI.
If it bothers you that much I would end it now, rather than let it go much longer. I don't think you can change him and he would probably resent any thing he was pressured into doing. People either want to do a certain sex act or they don't want to.
End the relationship and move on.You can't force someone to do something that they don't want to do to you even though you're more then willing to reciprocate. End it because you will start resenting him more and more.
He's immature, and most likely sees you as a human sex toy rather than a partner.
If you aren't in the mood to be a patient teacher, move on.
So y think he can be taught to be less grossed out by a woman's body? I'm just not sure that's a place I want to start from........ I've never been grossed out by intimacy with men back when I had little to no experience.
So y think he can be taught to be less grossed out by a woman's body? I'm just not sure that's a place I want to start from........ I've never been grossed out by intimacy with men back when I had little to no experience.
No, I dont' think he can be taught. I've had partners try to "teach" me to enjoy certain things and it doesn't work. I would decide to accept or reject. Accept him the way he is, or go find someone else.
I guess I'm commenting on his side of the deal. I don't do much of Mod cut. I never have been much on doing it. Of course I like it when she does it for me but I don't ask her to. She does when she wants to. I can't reciprocate in the same way but she says it's fine with the way things are going. I follow the old Yellow Pages slogan (let your fingers do the walking) and she says that more than makes up for the other. I can't see breaking up with someone just over a sex act. If he can't, or won't do one thing, give him a chance to make you happy some other way. Never can tell!
Last edited by PJSaturn; 10-06-2019 at 11:49 AM..
Reason: Not PG-13.
Yeah, I'd cut him loose...no Mod cut. is a definite dealbreaker.
Last edited by PJSaturn; 10-06-2019 at 11:49 AM..
Reason: Not PG-13.
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