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Old 10-22-2019, 04:04 PM
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Originally Posted by nctrailertrash View Post
Some of y'all might remember me from my post from a few months ago. We lost our (owned) home, mostly because of my husband's drug addiction. We were almost homeless. I ended up being able to buy a mobile home in cash, and we found a great landlord to rent a lot from. We are "stable," as "stable" as we can be at this point.

Anyway, so, as I said in that same post...I actually make pretty good money. About $1,000 a week. My husband has done coke/crack for the vast majority of our 10 year relationship. He has been clean for about 5-6 months, though. And he really has been.

But, he still "has to have" about $1200 a month in weed.

That's not all. Not only do I pay for me and my husband's cell phones, but I now pay for his brother's (who is homeless by choice in Florida) and his grandma's (who raised him, is in her 70s and lives off of Social Security) cell phones.

He gives our Netflix password to EVERYONE. Including his sister, who actually lives in a half-million-dollar house.

We have cable, and he gives our Suddenlink password to his grandma, brother, etc. so that they can log into the HBO app, etc. and watch.

He gets REALLY mad when I ask him why he gives our passwords to everybody or why I have to pay everyone's way. Or like...we had a discussion about buying 1/4 or 1/2 cow meat from a local farmer. He was talking about how we could give some to his sister, his grandma, blah blah.

But why DO I have to pay for everyone? I have to pay for my husband's speeding tickets and his child support. I have to pay for his weed. Thousands of dollars of my money has gone to his dope habit. I have to support his entire family, too?

HOW did my life end up this way? WHY do I have to take care of everyone all the time? I am losing my freaking mind here. I was raised by my mom, who was abused by my dad, to make my own money so I'd never have to depend on a man.

But I feel like I get intimidated and stomped all over the same way.

I get fussed at about dishes or laundry just like my mom did. Worse, actually. My dad just kinda expected clean clothes and hot food. I don't remember him being picky about food or fussy about stuff. And at least he DID work all day and provided for our family.

My husband is SUPER fussy and complains ALL the time about EVERYTHING. He doesn't like my square white bowls because they're too annoying to eat cereal or soup from. He doesn't like our silverware because it's too flimsy. He doesn't like chicken or turkey except in VERY specific situations. He will NOT eat leftovers.

He complains about how i do laundry or dishes. How/when I cook.

I mean, he's the one who hasn't worked since like 2012. It doesn't even matter. And now I apparently have to pay for everyone's cell phone and cable...and meat? and everything. wtf. And get fussed at like I'm a housewife who doesn't do her chores well enough?? wtf
My friend, you have worked toward the life you have. (see below)

But why DO I have to pay for everyone? You don't have to, but, for whatever reason, you have decided to allow others, including your deadbeat husband, to take endless advantage of you. They way to stop this pattern is to say NO and stop paying for his various kin.

HOW did my life end up this way? You allowed it to. Same thing here as above--the way to change your current life circumstances is to make a change that inches you toward the life you want to live. Clearly, that life you're living now is a draining, anxiety filled drama show that has no end in sight. Make a change for a better life for you. Let your husband and his kin fend for themselves.

nctrailertrash, you're not ANYONE'S trash. You are important, worthy and have value. Act like you are/do!!!

Your husband is a deadbeat, lazy and disrespectful opportunistic loser, and an addict to boot. Why on earth would you try to save that loser or the sham of a marriage he roped you into and to which you went willing? Get out and save yourself.

The addiction that's the problem here, and your primary issue, is your addiction to him. Until you break that addiction, your life will not change. But, I think you know this.

This is your show (your life) to put on as you see fit. Stop letting others decide it for you.
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Old 10-22-2019, 08:27 PM
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An Oz is what $400 I’m sure a heavy hitter could clear 3 in a month.
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Old 10-22-2019, 08:38 PM
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Originally Posted by zentropa View Post
I don't think it is physically possible to smoke $1,200 a month in weed.
Originally Posted by 1AngryTaxPayer View Post
It's not, it's impossible. Just like this thread.
Originally Posted by SWFL_Native View Post
An Oz is what $400 I’m sure a heavy hitter could clear 3 in a month.
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