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This is just way too much drama for the workplace. Stop dating men from your place of employment.
BTW--don't understand the hurt. You wanted it both ways--to push him away and yet get mad when he wasn't happy with your rejection. Quit playing games.
Stop sleeping with men you barely know who are only looking to add a notch to their bedpost. You said the guy was 35 and that you're 31 but your actions are more like a teenager. If you're really looking for a long term relationship, and it appears you are; then stopping playing games and let a relationship develop before you start having sex. Having sex too early just confuses things and for some women it makes them feel used if they break up shortly after.
I agree with all other posters. Do not date at the workplace. (regardless of the size of the company, different floor, etc). A workplace is to work, gain experience, move up career wise, make $$. Do not complicate a job.
Also, it seems like you saw red flags and still went for it: (were you lonely or something?)
"He kinda has a reputation as a womanizer, "
"Also, I found him immature at times- Like he mentioned several times that he only flirted with girls in the beginning because he wanted me to be a little jealous. I did get the feeling though that he actually likes me."
I don't want to make this about morals, but about decisions. Hey, people meet at work, fall in love, get into intimate relationship weather they should or not. That's a fact of life. THEY USUALLY DON"T DO THIS WITHIN ONE WEEK OF STARTING A NEW JOB. Do you work at the Playboy Mansion or what? I see parties, flirting, sleeping around, groping, workplace discussions and texting. When do you have time to get work done?
This relationship with employee A is over, it's over. Clearly he used you, your future with him is as a booty call now, and you are about to be passed around the workplace like last month's performance reviews. Move on, but don't do it at work.
So accept this, whatever it is, is over and focus on the future. Workplace relationships are discouraged because they cause polarization, even if he does not work with you. You see it already with employee a and employee b. Now other employees are noticing. You've heard the phrase - "don't sh*t where you eat". It's distracting, it's non-professional, it might be against company policy. In the future - date around, sleep around, whatever it is - outside of work.
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