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Originally Posted by himain
You are an emotional void. You are the worst type of guy out there only to lead a woman on
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Originally Posted by HCobyll
Don't know what idea do you have of me but I'm a completely normal guy that you'd see on the street. I try to help others whenever I can in my day to day life.
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I can actually see both points here.
As someone who has a very similar outlook as the OP, I can shed some light on how a non-psychopath can feel this way.
I can say from a personal experience, I have never encountered anything close to love. Maybe lust on the odd occasion, but nothing resembling love.
Maybe that might have to do with absolutely every member of my close family going through a string of unsuccessful marriages with Grandma being divorced once, my mother being divorced three times, my father being divorced twice, my uncle being divorced, and a few more distant relatives being stuck in very unhappy marriages.
Plus most of friends had divorced parents.
I haven't seen many healthy marriages in person. Apparently they exist, but I haven't seen many.
Also, I have incredible trust issues* from my (albeit somewhat limited) experience in relationships and a couple of other things that happened in my life. Opening myself up has never brought me anything good in life. I'll give you an example, I once told a woman about an insult I received back in high school from this girl. I won't say exactly what was said, but it basically boiled down to me being easily replaceable in a romantic capacity. There's maybe two or three times when someone has insulted me where it really got to me and this was one of them. Partly because the way it was phrased was actually rather clever and it went beyond you're average "you suck" comment. Anyway, one day we were arguing about something and see smugly repeated what was said with a tone of victory. Now, it actually didn't get to me this time around because I knew what she was doing, but it made me incredibly disgusted with her because she was trying to use something incredibly sensitive for me and use it against me in a really petty argument.
That was a woman who took months in getting me to lower my guard and talked about the importance of "opening up"...
So I see no point in a serious relationship. I can't see myself married (at least for long) or with kids (I would make a terrible father). Hell, at this point I guess it's just sex drive and boredom is the only reason why I have half-ass consider the idea at this point in my life.
*I am not joking. It borders on pathological paranoia. Although I am functional and I don't blow up at every possible sign of being underhanded; I always consider the possibility of betrayal and I take almost anything as possible sign of malevolence. Now, it usually isn't, but I handle betrayal rather effectively because I was mentally preparing myself from the first meeting.
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