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Yep... Or "Is that what you're working with? I'm so sorry"
I have not quite given up on dating yet and I am pretty sure that I will stick it out for a bit longer
I don't go into 1st, 2nd, 3rd dates thinking about the long term future... I go into it thinking about enjoying time out and good company. Then I see what happens after that, day by day.
No worries... I am neither triggered nor offended by it. I just think that it says a lot as to the maturity of the individual sending such photos. IDK..... maybe they’re just proud of their junk. Lol
I don’t lose any sleep over it.
I like men and generally get along well with them. I just don’t want one of my own....at present. Not a commentary on men, but rather just a personal choice. Having a b/f definitely puts a hitch in your giddy up!
Back on topic, the thread title suggests that there first had to be an interest in dating for it to be lost. I don't believe that was ever the case with me. As a kid I saw dates happen in films and on television, and they always seemed so artificial and, dare I say it, American.
I quietly dreaded the idea of having to go through all that when I grew up and, apart from a very few times when politeness or a sense of obligation prevented me from saying no thank you, I never did.
I was the opposite in terms of dating: I was super-eager to get into it. I probably picked up the idea from the teenage sitcoms I used to watch, like "Boy Meets World". Unfortunately, dating didn't pan out until college (freshman year), due to factors I'd rather not get into.
But my eagerness didn't go anywhere. It just festered inside, until I went off the deep end when a girl showed real interest in me for the first time ever. (Other than trying to get too serious too quickly, I kept most of the "deep end" to myself.) I dated semi-regularly since then, and had a number of relationships too. I lost all interest in dating around age 33, when my long-time friends got married and started living like prisoners in their own homes. In addition, my sex drive tanked; I now view sex as a mildly unpleasant but necessary chore, like a flu shot.
I have so many hobbies now, if I meet someone who wants to set up a date, I am almost annoyed that I have to skip my usual evening or weekend routine or interrupt my workout cycle. I rather go kickboxing or play beach volleyball than meeting a new person. Weeding through the undateables to find a decent guy I connect with who isn't full of crap - seems too much effort.
Yes, I would love to come home to someone and cuddle on the couch. But the process to get to this stage and meeting all the bull crappers who don't look like their pics and are already married ... too much work, I don't have the time or energy for this.
The old 80% of women only go after the top 20% of men nonsense. Lol
The good news being that since that aren’t enough 20%er’s to go around, a bunch of those women are going to have to settle for guys.... like you.
So like only 20% of them are worth dating? That explains A LOT!
I have so many hobbies now, if I meet someone who wants to set up a date, I am almost annoyed that I have to skip my usual evening or weekend routine or interrupt my workout cycle. I rather go kickboxing or play beach volleyball than meeting a new person. Weeding through the undateables to find a decent guy I connect with who isn't full of crap - seems too much effort.
Yes, I would love to come home to someone and cuddle on the couch. But the process to get to this stage and meeting all the bull crappers who don't look like their pics and are already married ... too much work, I don't have the time or energy for this.
Oddly, at least in my area, it seems like a lot of 30 plus women (some with kids) are leaving their men for other women. What’s up with that? I don’t see that for me, because I get a long with women even worse than men.
I think I have finally realized that my ocpd is probably my biggest obstacle. Everything has to be my way. I need the person in my life to be completely fine with never making a decision, driving and fully support that I am the boss because my way is always the best... 🦄 (unicorn..., I am looking for a unicorn!
People laugh at the stereotype, but there's a nugget of truth there.
I don't know how common the "dating while pregnant" thing is here, but I see a lot of women in their 20s/30s with very young kids, including babies, wanting to date. I'm not saying it's the woman's fault either - this area has rampant drug problems and a very poor work ethic among the working and lower classes. With that said, the person would need to be extremely special to me to put up with a baby that wasn't mine.
I was kidding. I was just in Tennessee (suburbs of Nashville) was there for a few weeks and just got back this morning. Tennessee is a great state. A lot of pretty southern belles, in fact, I got me one 🤙🏽. Yeeehaw! Lol
I was kidding. I was just in Tennessee (suburbs of Nashville) was there for a few weeks and just got back this morning. Tennessee is a great state. A lot of pretty southern belles, in fact, I got me one 🤙🏽. Yeeehaw! Lol
I've been slowly losing interest in dating for the last few years, since my mid/late 30s. It's probably been a month since I last visited a OLD site, and probably a year since seeing someone I was interested enough in to try to contact.
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