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I'm curious if the MeToo movement has affected anybody's love/dating life? If so, how?
My suspicion has always been that the fall out over MeToo wouldn't be instantaneous; it would be gradual. I think a lot of guys are already gun-shy about making the first move anyway, and spend too much time on "spectator sports" (looking at Facebook, Instagram, porn) and not enough time talking to women and getting to know them. I think it's going to cause more guys to simply not date. Like, either she wants to hook-up and she's very clear about it, or she doesn't, and I just wont waste my time.
Why would it cause guys, well aware ones anyway, not to date? I have found no change. Guys I would be interested in dating are not threatened by the knowledge and awareness that sexual assault and harassment are systemic and part of many people's thinking. I wondered if awareness would be greater. The thought that there are people out there who feel threatened by something with the sole purpose of raising awareness is depressing. But the men who "get it" are still there as they always were.
Why would it cause guys, well aware ones anyway, not to date? I have found no change. Guys I would be interested in dating are not threatened by the knowledge and awareness that sexual assault and harassment are systemic and part of many people's thinking. I wondered if awareness would be greater. The thought that there are people out there who feel threatened by something with the sole purpose of raising awareness is depressing. But the men who "get it" are still there as they always were.
This is it, OP. There have always been shy guys, and there have always been confident guys. There have always been guys, who are considerate of women, and aware of the dangers they face (hence the custom of making sure your date gets in the front door safely, when you drop her off after the date, if you don't actually see her to the door). There's always been a general awareness in society that women are vulnerable and require some extra consideration in that regard, so nothing's changed in that respect in the dating context. What's changed, is that the world is no longer accepting douchebaggery (and outright crime) from employers, priests and other authority figures, with a shrug as "the way the world is". Society is becoming more compassionate, which is always a good thing, wouldn't you agree?
I'm curious if the MeToo movement has affected anybody's love/dating life? If so, how?
My suspicion has always been that the fall out over MeToo wouldn't be instantaneous; it would be gradual. I think a lot of guys are already gun-shy about making the first move anyway, and spend too much time on "spectator sports" (looking at Facebook, Instagram, porn) and not enough time talking to women and getting to know them. I think it's going to cause more guys to simply not date. Like, either she wants to hook-up and she's very clear about it, or she doesn't, and I just wont waste my time.
“It’s very difficult to do that if there are certain rules in place. Because then it’s like: ‘Well, I don’t want to go up and talk to her, because I’m going to be called a rapist or something.’”
“It’s very difficult to do that if there are certain rules in place. Because then it’s like: ‘Well, I don’t want to go up and talk to her, because I’m going to be called a rapist or something.’”
There was a backlash to what he said...obviously.
The whole unfounded accusation thing is a total red herring. The incident of this is so vanishingly small.
Just more excuses, disguised as 'examples', as to why dating is SO hard for men.
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