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Sounds like an interesting way to get practice talking to people in a semi-romantic setting. Guaranteed way in to talk to the opposite sex. Even if nothing comes from it except for experience.
I like the idea because I know within the first minute if there is chemistry.
However, the reality did not work out - I went to a speed dating event and I did not like any of the guys there even though they vetted all the participants to make sure we are in the same age range and are employed, and somewhat decent.
- one was from a religion/country where they look down on women
- one was not all there mentally
- one had a little 4 kids with 3 women
- one had a ridiculous looking comb over
- one was a head shorter than me
- one was "an actor"
- two were obese (300 lbs +)
- one stank
- one wore bling clothes with a bling necklace and a grill.
- one did not seem to want to talk much, one word answers - it was like pulling teeth
hilarious. What did you think of your "competition", if you got a chance to talk to some of them. Just curious.
hilarious. What did you think of your "competition", if you got a chance to talk to some of them. Just curious.
Actually, most women looked pretty decent. I did not talk to them but just by looking at them, they were all at least average looking. It was in LA and it was a speed dating company that set that up frequently. I got an invitation to come back for free but did not want to do the drive again.
My best friend has begged me to try a friend’s speed dating event. I think putting a shy reserved guy like myself in that environment is a disaster waiting to happen.
On a second note - you will never see these people again and it may be worth going there for a learning experience.
If you go there with no expectations, you can learn alot. You have a few minutes to talk to a person. The first one may be a disaster. The second one you may not make the same mistakes again. By the end of the night you will be more relaxed for all future normal dates. It definitely helped me, I was never nervous again before a first date.
And don't worry, no one will be mean or openly reject you. You have to fill out a form after to give feedback.
Never did speed dating but I think the majority of guys who have success with this tend to be good-looking, have a good job/career, or have good social skills. It's not geared toward shy introverted guys who are below average in looks with low paying employment.
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On a second note - you will never see these people again and it may be worth going there for a learning experience.
If you go there with no expectations, you can learn alot. You have a few minutes to talk to a person. The first one may be a disaster. The second one you may not make the same mistakes again. By the end of the night you will be more relaxed for all future normal dates. It definitely helped me, I was never nervous again before a first date.
And don't worry, no one will be mean or openly reject you. You have to fill out a form after to give feedback.
This particular event actually just got canceled. Honestly, I’m kind of relieved. But I think if I can get out of my own way, a speed dating event may be helpful as far as more practice for more legit dates. I would go in with an expectation of not finding any actual dating material and be surprised if it leads to something.
But I'm not sure it would be any more effective than OLD for people who are self-conscious about their looks.
People get on me here for not trying to do anything and just complaining about my looks when I bring something up now it’s not a good idea because of my looks lol.
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