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Old 10-27-2019, 06:47 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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Old 10-27-2019, 08:12 PM
 
Location: Southern Illinois
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I’m not judging you but I’m curious why you chose to go a year without and then broke your fast with a hookup. What am I missing here? Or did you choose to go a year without or did it choose you?
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Old 10-27-2019, 08:15 PM
 
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I’m not judging you but I’m curious why you chose to go a year without and then broke your fast with a hookup. What am I missing here? Or did you choose to go a year without or did it choose you?
Yeah, I was wondering that, too.
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Old 10-27-2019, 08:28 PM
 
Location: Newnan, GA
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Yeah, I was wondering that, too.
Me going without was a choice. I wasn't really trying to hook up because I was healing from an emotional and mentally abusive relationship. I met someone who I was attracted to and said why not? ????????*?? I needed to get laid so I did. Protected of course.
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Old 10-27-2019, 08:28 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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I’m not judging you but I’m curious why you chose to go a year without and then broke your fast with a hookup. What am I missing here? Or did you choose to go a year without or did it choose you?
One of my first gut thoughts as well. No judgements, just wondering.
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Old 10-27-2019, 08:30 PM
 
Location: Newnan, GA
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I’m not judging you but I’m curious why you chose to go a year without and then broke your fast with a hookup. What am I missing here? Or did you choose to go a year without or did it choose you?
Me going without sex was a choice. I wasn't really trying to hook up because I was healing from an emotional and mentally abusive relationship. I met someone who I was attracted to and said why not? ????????*?? I needed to get laid so I did. Protected of course.
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Old 10-27-2019, 08:31 PM
 
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Me going without was a choice. I wasn't really trying to hook up because I was healing from an emotional and mentally abusive relationship. I met someone who I was attracted to and said why not? ????????*?? I needed to get laid so I did. Protected of course.
Ok.

Maybe, as another poster said, you're just not one of those people who can engage in hookups. I'm not going to pretend I never have, but I think if we're honest with ourselves, we know that hooking up isn't really a healthy thing to do on a lot of different levels (even if we're using appropriate protection).
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Old 10-27-2019, 08:34 PM
 
Location: Newnan, GA
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Ok.

Maybe, as another poster said, you're just not one of those people who can engage in hookups. I'm not going to pretend I never have, but I think if we're honest with ourselves, we know that hooking up isn't really a healthy thing to do on a lot of different levels (even if we're using appropriate protection).
Yeah, I've nvr really been a casual sex type of woman but decided to go for it anyway. I'm usually very reserved and I guess wanted to step outside of my comfort zone.
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Old 10-27-2019, 08:39 PM
 
Location: Morrison, CO
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Yeah, I've nvr really been a casual sex type of woman but decided to go for it anyway. I'm usually very reserved and I guess wanted to step outside of my comfort zone.

There's nothing wrong with it. If you feel self conscious about your body, work on that. It will get better. Also, alcohol helps.
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Old 10-27-2019, 08:40 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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... I guess wanted to step outside of my comfort zone.
Hence the uncomfortableness.
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