They say create distance but whenever I create distance the girl ends up with another guy

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by simon22

I'm not autistic and I'm not on the spectrum at all. I've just noticed that whenever I create distance the girl ends up with another guy. So it's apparently not good advice.

Maybe you're creating too much distance? You don't give us much info to go on, to advise you on this, so we don't know what's really going on.

Why would you create distance anyway, if you like her and want to see her? Your "creating distance" could be a signal to her, that you're not seriously interested. Or it could come across as mixed signals: hot/cold, hot/cold, leading her to look for someone more consistent.

[james112]

Originally Posted by simon22

I'm not autistic and I'm not on the spectrum at all. I've just noticed that whenever I create distance the girl ends up with another guy. So it's apparently not good advice.

What 'distance' are you creating?



Women do need space, which is a good thing, for one, it's lets them think and wonder about you. In early dating about once a week is enough distance. I'm talking about a girl that has interest in you. Once a girl has a high interest in you do not ignore her. I've made that mistake too often. But don't text bomb her either, keep things moving at HER pace.



Dating successfully is moving the relationship forward at her pace, which means always being in touch with her interest level in you. If she's texting every day she wants to be with you more often, so set up dates more often.

[old_cold]

There's a huge difference in being very interested and needy.

[elyn02]

Originally Posted by simon22

Dating advice people

People giving advice need to provide how to step-by-step. So what are the steps in creating distance?