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Old 11-06-2019, 11:31 PM
 
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So should I not create distance?
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Old 11-06-2019, 11:41 PM
 
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Who’s “they”?
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Old 11-06-2019, 11:41 PM
 
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Who’s “they”?
Dating advice people
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Old 11-07-2019, 12:18 AM
 
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Sounds like it's proven to be crappy advice.

Why play games?
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Old 11-07-2019, 12:22 AM
 
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Sounds like it's proven to be crappy advice.

Why play games?

Well, they also say not to be needy and creating distance is the opposite of that. But apparently it's better to be needy than create distance.
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Old 11-07-2019, 12:23 AM
 
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Well, they also say not to be needy and creating distance is the opposite of that. But apparently it's better to be needy than create distance.
There's another option. Just be you and don't overthink it.
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Old 11-07-2019, 02:51 AM
 
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Well, they also say not to be needy and creating distance is the opposite of that. But apparently it's better to be needy than create distance.
If those two things look like opposites and one must be one or the other, you need to start all the way at the beginning of your human understanding.

Take two scenarios. Let's say you start talking to a woman. And she is constantly asking when are you free? What did you do this morning, this afternoon, this evening? When am I going to see you? I have not seen you since this afternoon? It has been too long. I need more, more, more. UCK. Or, you are talking to a woman, and she simply never replies. Or replies weirdly every x days. And is just feeling absent.

How do either of these feel to you?
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Old 11-07-2019, 02:54 AM
 
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Oh and whoever "they" are, they don't sound like dating authorities to me. If you are working the red pill, aside from turning into a horrible human being, you are doing it wrong.
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Old 11-07-2019, 02:59 AM
 
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So should I not create distance?
Its actually push-pull. You pull, seduce, and build attraction. You push and make them yearn for you. If you push without pulling, then they really haven't lost anything. Effective push pull does take practice.

But if you don't want to do that manipulative stuff, then try it more naturally. Like have a social life and things to do. Go out with more than one woman and have other options. Care more about your opinion of yourself than what others think of you. Expect other people to impress you instead of just you impressing them. This will make you naturally non-needy.
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Old 11-07-2019, 04:39 AM
 
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Its actually push-pull. You pull, seduce, and build attraction. You push and make them yearn for you. If you push without pulling, then they really haven't lost anything. Effective push pull does take practice.

But if you don't want to do that manipulative stuff, then try it more naturally. Like have a social life and things to do. Go out with more than one woman and have other options. Care more about your opinion of yourself than what others think of you. Expect other people to impress you instead of just you impressing them. This will make you naturally non-needy.
Every time I 'pushed' a woman away, they wound up with someone else or I'd never hear from them. In fact, they were probably happy I pushed them away. lol
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