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how much of a complicated partners life would you tolerate ?
None, I'm far to old and experienced to put up with any of the choices mentioned. In the same breath, maybe that is because I am content by myself, much to the displeasure of my children. But they're young and don't know any better...yet.
I don't get this. Sounds like a great way to stay single forever. Adults aren't going to have undivided attention. They often have children. They have careers. Aging parents and other family. Other friends. No one is going to be able to give me un complete attention, nor should they be able to, and I can't understand why I would want it, especially at the beginning.
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Romantic interest.
Not all interest encompassing everything.
I mean, come on.
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I'm one of those people who thinks raising your kids should be #1 priority- not dating.
And if you'd seen the nonsense I've seen and how it affects kids (or just read the studies), you'd get it.
So have dating be the #2 priority, or #3, or #4.
Telling people that they shouldn't date and make new relationships, or have lovers, just because they have kids is really weird. Sounds incredibly unhealthy.
I haven't seen a single study that shows a parent having a healthy, balanced, social life negatively impacts children. Good rolemodeling is pretty critical to parenting.
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I was confused by it too given the mentioning of co-parenting.
Yup, that implies a person having a working relationship with another person is off limits to a romantic relationship as co parenting is not a romantic relationship.
I'm one of those people who thinks raising your kids should be #1 priority- not dating.
And if you'd seen the nonsense I've seen and how it affects kids (or just read the studies), you'd get it.
I see what you are getting at. I believe also that if you have kids, they come first. Other things go behind kids.
I personally do not even consider people in other EXCLUSIVE ROMANTIC relationships for dating.
A person fresh out of a divorce is off limits to me.
I used to look at single mothers as off limits, but that was in my twenties. I'm at the age where people are very likely to have children.
A person who is dating someone else, sure. Dating is not exclusive.
Someone in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, no. This is typically the exclusive level of the relationship. I don't care if they are married or not. They might be planning it and it is not in my place to be "Well, you're not married, so I'm butting in and taking your girl." If the relationship is not going to work, I'd just let it run its course on its own. Plenty of others out there for me to be thinking about someone who is in a committed exclusive relationship with someone else.
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I see what you are getting at. I believe also that if you have kids, they come first. Other things go behind kids.
I personally do not even consider people in other ROMANTIC relationships for dating.
A person fresh out of a divorce is off limits to me.
I used to look at single mothers as off limits, but that was in my twenties. I'm at the age where people are very likely to have children.
A person who is dating someone else, sure. Dating is not exclusive.
Someone in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, no. This is typically the exclusive level of the relationship. I don't care if they are married or not. They might be planning it and it is not in my place to be "Well, you're not married, so I'm butting in and taking your girl." If the relationship is not going to work, I'd just let it run its course on its own. Plenty of others out there for me to be thinking about someone who is in a committed relationship with someone else.
But that's just me
Ita.....if someone is in a relationship they want to be in....putting yourself in the middle of it is more likely to go bad for you than anyone else IMO. If they are divorced tho....that’s not somebody in a relationship because it’s over......
Ita about kids too.....but lots of people can choose not to have kids.......
Ita.....if someone is in a relationship they want to be in....putting yourself in the middle of it is more likely to go bad for you than anyone else IMO. If they are divorced tho....that’s not somebody in a relationship because it’s over......
Ita about kids too.....but lots of people can choose not to have kids.......
That's true...
...but typically, there are some leftover feelings from a fresh divorcee. A person who has been divorced for a while, I would consider because she had enough time to process everything and get used to her new life...and she has decided that she wanted to date again.
Another person that is off limits, someone who does not want to date.
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That's true...
...but typically, there are some leftover feelings from a fresh divorcee. A person who has been divorced for a while, I would consider because she had enough time to process everything and get used to her new life...and she has decided that she wanted to date again.
Another person that is off limits, someone who does not want to date.
IMO there is a difference between dating someone that is in a relationship they want to be in....& dating someone that is divorced tho.....A N D if there are no kids....it’s an even bigger difference.....
I always wonder how single parents with little kids who work full time and therefore do not have much time for the kids anyway, have time and the patience to even date? Aren't they busy enough work/kids/chores.. no?
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