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These people weren't just joking around, they were being hostile. When people joke around, everyone finds it funny. When everyone but one person finds it funny, then it is an attack against that isolated individual.
These are your girlfriends friends... she took their side. She could not even sympathize with your position. Unless you intend to live a life of conflict, I suggest you find a new girlfriend because she does not have enough maturity to understand what it means to be in a healthy relationship. It sounds as though she and her friends are still stuck in the high school popularity contest mindset. Find someone who makes you a better person and wants to build you up, not tear you down.
Thank you. I did laugh and enjoy the banter in the beginning, but when they all gang up it can be overkill. It goes from "good one!" to, "OK, not really funny anymore." I told her that while I appreciated her saying what she did say in terms of sticking up for me, that I was also hurt that she can't even take a moment to sympathize for me, or step back to see how I truly feel. She told me she doesn't have sympathy because her friends crack jokes on everyone and this is how they are, and that I am taking it personally. When it's just me and my girlfriend, or with my friends, everything is great. It's just this ongoing issue with her friends.
I don't think your GF's friends are the problem. Sounds like your GF is down with being someone you should tell to f herself.
I told her yesterday how I took the high road and could've easily told this dude to F off. I told her next time if he keeps pushing my buttons I will. Her response was, "crappy attitude, revengeful, and bent on telling someone off because you're all up in your feelings. Real mature."
I told her yesterday how I took the high road and could've easily told this dude to F off. I told her next time if he keeps pushing my buttons I will. Her response was, "crappy attitude, revengeful, and bent on telling someone off because you're all up in your feelings. Real mature."
What does this mean? Does this mean she could not give a rat's ass about your feelings? Kinda sounds like it. She does not sound like a winner to me.
Are you certain that she is not taking advantage of your self proclaimed social issues?
I would certainly hope not. I don't think so. My sister and a few of my family members said it's pretty obvious that she is insecure with herself, so it would be pretty messed up if she was doing that. But I don't think that's the case.
I would certainly hope not. I don't think so. My sister and a few of my family members said it's pretty obvious that she is insecure with herself, so it would be pretty messed up if she was doing that. But I don't think that's the case.
One would think that having a similar problem, as I read it, insecurity would make them more likely to be good about it. I don't see it. More likely that she is dysfunctional in her own ways. In any event, it does not sound caring to me.
Yah. She is not very caring or concerned about YOUR feelings and would rather blow it off to get along. AND it is ok to simply blame you since you actively seek help with social issues.
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