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But a cousin (guy) has interest in a girl at his university. Seems to be mutual (they've had coffee, etc.). She's decent enough. Keeps mostly to herself. Thing is, and this caught my attention when he brought it up, is not soon after they got to talking she told him not to believe any gossip about her. This is his 2nd year. She's 4th year. So there's possibly some gossip.
Or am I, being an older/yes protective cousin, just overthinking her comment.
It could mean anything. Maybe something happened before your cousin was at the school and people are still talking about it. Maybe she made some people mad and they speak poorly about her. Who knows? He should ask her.
There's a reason that folks should not partake in gossip. It's hurtful and may have little, if anything, to do with the truth.
I've dated dated people with a past. I did not know them then. The past, their past, made little difference to me as I was dating the person I knew in the present.
It could mean anything. Maybe something happened before your cousin was at the school and people are still talking about it. Maybe she made some people mad and they speak poorly about her. Who knows? He should ask her.
Yup. That could be it. People sometimes do hatchet jobs on others out of jealousy, envy, mental health issues, whatever.
It is weird in two ways. One, that there would be any gossip about her at the university level. Two, that she would tell somebody what to do. He can decide for himself what to believe.
As said I found it weird. Yes, gossip can just be malicious undermining. I think we all know that. But at the same time to say don't believe any gossip seems a bit... off, suppose. Too direct. Maybe it's just me but I read this as her way of saying if he questioned her on any overheard gossip she wouldn't address it. Either way he's an adult not a kid and it's a tad rude to be told what to believe.
As said I found it weird. Yes, gossip can just be malicious undermining. I think we all know that. But at the same time to say don't believe any gossip seems a bit... off, suppose. Too direct. Maybe it's just me but I read this as her way of saying if he questioned her on any overheard gossip she wouldn't address it. Either way he's an adult not a kid and it's a tad rude to be told what to believe.
That is probably her intent. This is her way of establishing trust in a relationship.
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