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I understand that dating apps/online dating is a popular way to meet now, but there is still a stigma around it. Many female friends of mine use it, but tell me they will not admit to anyone that they met their boyfriend online.
Is it these negative stories that make the headlines, which continue to perpetuate the negative stereotypes of online dating? Many times it is the women who need to be careful, as there have been physical assaults against them.
This story is pretty wild though. A guy met a woman online, and was essentially setup to be robbed at gun point.
I personally think that these are the stories that give online dating such a bad rep.
Yup. That is actually one of the first things that jumped out to me as well .
Anyone using online dating (regardless of gender), needs to follow some common sense rules.
Meeting someone for the first time at 2am is a pretty obvious red flag!
For persons under 30 years, online dating is socially acceptable, regardless of what these stories say.
It is only people who grew up in times without the WWW who can have a negative opinion towards it.
That is the feeling I got, although I don't know that I fully agree with the age limits of people who find it weird.
I'm in my late 30's and definitely grew up in the digital age, which began to really take off in when I was in college in the early 2000's. For people in my age bracket (35-40), I have found that, especially among my female friends that use OLD (just my experience), many are fine with using it but many have told me they feel awkward admitting to friends/families that they met their significant other online. Again, it is a limited sample size and only my opinion (so it may not be a universal opinion), but I have found that many women I know in my age bracket do not like to admit they use it.
I have a friend that just got married (both late 30s), and his wife was from California. She travelled to Chicago for work pretty frequently, and they met online and met up when she was in town for work. I went to the wedding and they had an elaborate story (a lie about how they met). When I asked my friend why, he said that both his parents and hers would have flipped out if they found out they met online. So maybe you are right, that part of the stigma in younger people, is because of how their parents (who grew up in a different era) will react. You are correct, that it may not necessarily be a stigma around the people using it, but there may be some effort made to keep OLD use secretive because of how their parents,relatives, etc (older generations) may react.
And to tie it back to this post, the negative stories like this perpetuate the stigma/weirdness of OLD to some. There are no headlines about the many success stories. So older generations are likely to continue their negative views of it when they read headlines like this.
That is the feeling I got, although I don't know that I fully agree with the age limits of people who find it weird.
I'm in my late 30's and definitely grew up in the digital age, which began to really take off in when I was in college in the early 2000's. For people in my age bracket (35-40), I have found that, especially among my female friends that use OLD (just my experience), many are fine with using it but many have told me they feel awkward admitting to friends/families that they met their significant other online. Again, it is a limited sample size and only my opinion (so it may not be a universal opinion), but I have found that many women I know in my age bracket do not like to admit they use it.
I have a friend that just got married (both late 30s), and his wife was from California. She travelled to Chicago for work pretty frequently, and they met online and met up when she was in town for work. I went to the wedding and they had an elaborate story (a lie about how they met). When I asked my friend why, he said that both his parents and hers would have flipped out if they found out they met online. So maybe you are right, that part of the stigma in younger people, is because of how their parents (who grew up in a different era) will react. You are correct, that it may not necessarily be a stigma around the people using it, but there may be some effort made to keep OLD use secretive because of how their parents,relatives, etc (older generations) may react.
And to tie it back to this post, the negative stories like this perpetuate the stigma/weirdness of OLD to some. There are no headlines about the many success stories. So older generations are likely to continue their negative views of it when they read headlines like this.
I remember how in the 90's it was extremely a call "for the desperate" to use online dating. Remember American Singles and the AOL singles sites? lol. They reigned supreme. I think Match abought out the AOL one.
2am at a casino for a first date? How did this NOT throw up red flags?
Totally agree. That is just plain due-diligence. If you are using dating apps to find a real relationship, you aren’t going to be meeting anyone at 2am for the first time. Even if you are just looking to hookup, 2am for the first meeting is really odd and should have raised red flags.
I remember how in the 90's it was extremely a call "for the desperate" to use online dating. Remember American Singles and the AOL singles sites? lol. They reigned supreme. I think Match abought out the AOL one.
Yeah, I remember when they used to be seen as a tool for losers/desperate people who couldn’t find someone the traditional way. I’m in my late 30s and I have some friends who hold that view since their knowledge of OLD was when it was in its infancy.
For younger people nowadays (20s/30s), OLD is just another app and is actually trendy.
The views on OLD is definitely impacted by age as one of the posters mentioned. OLD in the headlines has always been spun as having some “danger” to it with stories like this or people being swindled out of thousands of dollars, or catfishing. In reality, those stories are few and far between. Most of the time OLD ends up with people just meeting, and sometimes it works out and many times it doesn’t. But OLD is really just a vehicle for people to initially meet.
I remember how in the 90's it was extremely a call "for the desperate" to use online dating. Remember American Singles and the AOL singles sites? lol. They reigned supreme. I think Match abought out the AOL one.
Before that it was lonely hearts ads in newspapers and magazines for more than 100 years. The stigma attached to it has always been there. Desperate, undesirable, etc.
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