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It doesn't matter how ugly you are, because women tend to have a hard cutoff.
I don't think I'm a bad looking dude, my facial components are in the right places, but never in my life has my looks gotten me any kind of attention from women.
I've had to rely on my charm, so if I were a few notches less looking, I don't think it really would have made any difference. The same women would have dated me.
And I truly believe that. Like if tomorrow, I woke up as the worst looking dude I know (who is not disfigured), my life wouldn't be any different than it is today. I said not disfigured, so nobody is staring.
Looks mean as much in this life as you want them to mean.
Each day, life ticks away. If you want to spend those ticks worrying about how ugly or handsome you are, that's on you.
**** that for me...
I agree with that I think because of horniness\sex drive most men have a much more diverse taste in what they find physically appealing so it doesn’t take much for a man to be at least somewhat physically attracted to a decent amount of women right away... Plus women have things guys don’t like makeup and sexy clothing that could make a decent looking women look good enough to capture men’s attention..
Where for a women to be physically attracted to a man right away he has to be pretty good looking...Even kinda cute isn’t gonna be enough to capture their attention right away off your looks alone ...not saying a decent looking dude will never have a women physically attracted to him right away but it’s not gonna happen often or be enough for him to rely on that.. he’s gonna have to charm her and win her over as much as the unattractive guy..
I agree with that I think because of horniness\sex drive most men have a much more diverse taste in what they find physically appealing so it doesn’t take much for a man to be at least somewhat physically attracted to a decent amount of women right away... Plus women have things guys don’t like makeup and sexy clothing that could make a decent looking women look good enough to capture men’s attention..
Where for a women to be physically attracted to a man right away he has to be pretty good looking...Even kinda cute isn’t gonna be enough to capture their attention right away off your looks alone ...not saying a decent looking dude will never have a women physically attracted to him right away but it’s not gonna happen often or be enough for him to rely on that.. he’s gonna have to charm her and win her over as much as the unattractive guy..
I've found some "sexy clothing" that got me attention, but I had to really look for it.
Yeah, the beauty industry does seem geared more towards women.
To the rest, in my experience, yes and no. It does help to be good looking, but a man also has to stand out in some way. If you present yourself just like everyone else, you may likely have a harder time demonstrating how unique you are compared to someone who has explored and found his own style. I'm just speaking from my experience. It is different for everyone.
Perhaps, try growing a beard, maybe a different hair style too. This might give you a different look.
Changing it up can help for certain. I went from shaved head to full head of hair down to my shoulders (of course styled), and it made a difference in how people treated me.
I've found some "sexy clothing" that got me attention, but I had to really look for it.
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"Sexy" clothing for women seems to be along the lines of the stereotypical trashy lingerie and similar. It's not universal, but in knowing and talking with women my whole life, there are outfits on guys that can grill a woman's cheese: a sharp suit, well-fitting jeans, a dress shirt with the sleeves rolled up. Some women like a guy in sweatpants. Other women like a man in uniform.
...not saying a decent looking dude will never have a women physically attracted to him right away but it’s not gonna happen often or be enough for him to rely on that.. he’s gonna have to charm her and win her over as much as the unattractive guy..
You already think your looks hold you back and women don’t give you the time of day because of it. What do you have to lose by showing your face to a bunch of people who aren’t going to date you anyway?
By feeling even worse about my looks then I already do.
Still, you forced yourself to break out of your comfort zone and picked an activity in which you were not well-versed but might lead to meeting a special woman, and gave it a try. Which is so much more than most of us (myself included) who state they have such a high degree of difficulty meeting someone they'd like to date, but stay within their "zone of comfort".
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Still, you forced yourself to break out of your comfort zone and picked an activity in which you were not well-versed but might lead to meeting a special woman, and gave it a try. Which is so much more than most of us (myself included) who state they have such a high degree of difficulty meeting someone they'd like to date, but stay within their "zone of comfort".
If you’re tall that’s like a cheat code. Most women will only date tall men and will overlook other negatives if you’re tall..
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