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ETA: The phrase "supernatural bond that transcend human understanding" is truly gag-worthy, IMHO.
Yuck was my gut response.
OP--Tell your "mistress" that she already is a homewrecker. That ship has sailed. She had some kind of affair with you, and now you are thinking about separating from your wife. She's already helped "wreck" your marriage. As others have said though, it doesn't let you off the hook. You opened the door. She walked in.
Your infidelity and affair are a lie to your wife and more. I think that relationships, like your affair, that begin under circumstances that involve lying and betrayal, cannot last. These relationships are built on a very poor foundation that is almost certain to collapse when the reality of everyday life sets in. A marriage or relationship that begins on an untruth cannot have a trusting foundation.
OP, what do you think lead you to cheat on your wife with three different people, over the years?
If you never loved her, why did you propose to her in the first place?
Because i thought at the time it was love. Looking back i never had the romantic connection required for a life long commitment. This isnt my wifes fault, its mine. I thought i was doing the right thing at the time but looking back i wasnt
Are there any kids in this picture? No kids, ive always wanted them and she finally wants them but its now me having cold feet due to not being the husband/father she and potential kids deserve
Do you live in the Bible Belt? Would a divorce and subsequent (all too soon) remarriage have repercussions at your job? No, wont have any repurcussions work wise at all
What if you divorce, remarry, and then after the first few months or the first year, life becomes routine again, and you get bored? You haven't lived with your new paramour yet; what happens if she starts harping on you to pick up your socks, or gets carried away with your credit card? Or doesn't feel that cooking and cleaning is her job, and wants you to hire a staff?
I understand the honeymoon period ends at some stage, im willing to put in years for the new person in my life if necessary to demonstrate to both she and i before i make any life long decisions
Are you sure you know what you'd be getting yourself into?
Probably not, willing to deal with the consequences for happiness and true love
OP--Tell your "mistress" that she already is a homewrecker. That ship has sailed. She had some kind of affair with you, and now you are thinking about separating from your wife. She's already helped "wreck" your marriage. As others have said though, it doesn't let you off the hook. You opened the door. She walked in.
Your infidelity and affair are a lie to your wife and more. I think that relationships, like your affair, that begin under circumstances that involve lying and betrayal, cannot last. These relationships are built on a very poor foundation that is almost certain to collapse when the reality of everyday life sets in. A marriage or relationship that begins on an untruth cannot have a trusting foundation.
I cant argue with any of that, ive been completely honest with the mistress to my detriment as she probably would be with me now if i lied about certain points. Honesty isnt a bad starting point albeit the situation undoubtedly is largely based on betrayl and secrecy
The kindest thing you can do for your wife is to be honest with her and leave her. You will only cause her more pain with your infidelities and the fact that you really are not in love with her. She deserves better than that and you know it.
I agree which i believe the best thing for her is i leave her with or without the new woman in my life
However, don't be surprised if the mistress ends up not totally trusting you. What is to stop you from being unfaithful to her?
She doesnt which is understandable, ive told her about my past infidelity as well. What is to stop me from being unfaithful to her? The fact she gives me fulfilment which will ensure i wont need to look elsewhere, the fact i can see us having children with her and having given up everything to be with her i will not want to jeapordise that
Are there any kids in this picture? No kids, ive always wanted them and she finally wants them but its now me having cold feet due to not being the husband/father she and potential kids deserve
You have to end the marriage as soon as is practical. It's so unfair for you to pretend every day while she goes forward thinking she wants you to father her future children.
Why did you marry your wife? Didn't she provide you happiness or fulfillment at anytime?
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