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I'm under no illusions I'm most possibly could be going through a mid life crisis and the motivations aren't correct. I also agree my track record is less to be desired and completely understand her reservations in pursuing a relationship with me. I'm willing to give it a try in the most careful way possible which of course sounds ridiculous considering the situation at hand, by ensuring we don't go head in, to take time to determine whether the motivations from both sides is genuine and long lasting, to continually review the relationship to see whether it's legitimate before making any serious steps moving forward which can only be over the course of years worth of work
What I think a lot of people like you tend to ignore is that even though the relationship you want to leave your wife for FEELS different/special etc. it's no different than any other relationship in a sense that it could fail at anytime, you could run into the same problems, etc. My point being, whatever made you want to cheat your current wife in the first place, could likely happen with this other woman. Don't get so caught up in a fantasy and it turns out you literally just transferred whatever personal issues/character flaws you have into the next relationship. Humble yourself.
My mistress and i are cognizant of all these matters, I've been brutally honest with her about everything from the start and we are honest with ourselves and one another to illustrate our motivations, misgivings and potential damage we could do to one another. This along with many other things is why I have hope we can have a life long union of true love and happiness, granted it's far too early to know and too many complications. The hope remains.
You’re picking and choosing what to believe and follow, then.
There’s no easy way to do what you need to do. But you NEED to do it.
I can't control what I believe nor what I feel. The two don't agree hence the predicament I've put myself and these two poor women I've also dragged into
My mistress and i are cognizant of all these matters, I've been brutally honest with her about everything from the start and we are honest with ourselves and one another to illustrate our motivations, misgivings and potential damage we could do to one another. This along with many other things is why I have hope we can have a life long union of true love and happiness, granted it's far too early to know and too many complications. The hope remains.
Your mistress is well beside the point. You two may or may not make it.
Get a grip and focus on resolving the issue you’ve let fester for 15 years... your marriage. Hire an attorney on Monday.
My mistress and i are cognizant of all these matters, I've been brutally honest with her about everything from the start and we are honest with ourselves and one another to illustrate our motivations, misgivings and potential damage we could do to one another. This along with many other things is why I have hope we can have a life long union of true love and happiness, granted it's far too early to know and too many complications. The hope remains.
Maybe you could be “brutally honest” with your current wife, i.e. admit there is something lacking in your marriage and make a commitment to improving it, instead of fooling around with someone else.
In the Okey Dokie School of Honorable Living, having an affair is much, much worse than getting a divorce.
If you are determined to continue on your present course, be decent and divorce your wife now. I think she deserves that at a minimum. And a fat divorce settlement.
Maybe you could be “brutally honest” with your current wife, i.e. admit there is something lacking in your marriage and make a commitment to improving it, instead of fooling around with someone else.
In the Okey Dokie School of Honorable Living, having an affair is much, much worse than getting a divorce.
If you are determined to continue on your present course, be decent and divorce your wife now. I think she deserves that at a minimum. And a fat divorce settlement.
Maybe you could be “brutally honest” with your current wife, i.e. admit there is something lacking in your marriage and make a commitment to improving it, instead of fooling around with someone else.
In the Okey Dokie School of Honorable Living, having an affair is much, much worse than getting a divorce.
If you are determined to continue on your present course, be decent and divorce your wife now. I think she deserves that at a minimum. And a fat divorce settlement.
This is what I've been wondering, too. But if the OP says he never loved her, maybe working on it wouldn't go anywhere? If there are no feelings there, you can't just manufacture them out of nowhere.
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