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Are you sure? If you have an attorney I would check with him/her on the concept of filing for a legal separation with exclusive use of the marital home. And I would definitely NOT move out of the home if at all possible as that might be construed as abandonment, which could be very detrimental to your rights.
This^^. If you haven't already spoken to a lawyer, you need to do so ASAP
He does not fall down drunk or abusive. He is pretty much neglectful. Does not have much to do with me and my daughter. Does not try to make the marriage work. It upsets my daughter to seehimbe neglectful towards me an her. He doesn't even go to dinner or breakfast anymore. Like my daughter said. There physically but not emotional. He refuses to go on antidepressants.
Your daughter should not know this stuff, she should be involved in teen stuff, not a therapist.
Stay where you are now and file for separation tomorrow. Do you work?
*I looked at your prior posts...this has been going on for awhile now....
Coincidentally, I live in the next town over from you. Bizarre.
Sorry to hear you are in this position but he has to go and grow up. Let him go live with Mommy while he gets his shyt together. If he doesn't-then better for you and your daughter
Me and my husband have been separated for 3 months. He lived with his mother but wanted to come back home to be with our daughter to support her. Problem is me and my daughter do not want him there. He can't decide if he wants to be married but I want to still be married. It's uncomfortable for me and my daughter. I told him he needs to go back to his mom's until he can decide if he wants to be married or divorced. My daughter told him dad your here physically but not emotionally. Does nothing with me and my daughter. Just comes home and sits in the kitchen. Am I wrong wanting him to move out?
I'm honestly curious as to why you want to be with someone who is not happy in the relationship?
Jobaba. My husband has depression and keeps everything deep down inside. I do believe he wants to stay married but does not want to put in the work to keep it going.
He is probably deeply depressed and self-medicating with alcohol and is likely now physically dependent on the alcohol (meaning he could seize and die if stopping suddenly. He should probably be in a medical/psych detox and then, when detoxed safely off alcohol, evaluated psychiatrically. He is likely at high risk for suicide throughout, whether he gets treatment or not.
I worked in the field for 37 years and that is my guess about this unfortunate family's situation. Good that the daughter is shielded from some of the dysfunction.
Judges restrict it to supervised visitation all the time when there are drug, alcohol, criminal, or abuse issues. If a 14 year old girl says she doesn’t want to see the guy and it’s that kind of history, the judge can restrict access.
In your scenario the judge decides. In just saying teenagers can make decisions on how a household is run when they run one. But this is missing the point. The decision is with parents if husband is father (and or government, if courts get involved).
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