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"She was ok with it" probably means, that she didn't object to being hit on and handled the situation graciously, not that she was actually into the OP & agreeable to going out with him.
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i was thinking about looking a for relationship on zoosk or match.com but im very hesistant on it and i want to physically look but i dont know where to go, im not into bars since i dont drink. so i dont know what to do.
Online and offline venues have their merits. Swiping through photos on, say, Match.com is easy but brutal -- I reject anyone who is not precisely what I am not visually attracted to, which means 99.9% of all profiles.
Having passed a visual test, meeting the individual(s) in person would subject them to three of my remaining four senses -- sound, smell and touch (taste not just yet).
A woman's voice is a deal-breaker for me if it is grating or otherwise unpleasant. It should relax me, not make me tense. Then her *natural* scent (which is a big component of "chemistry") must be agreeable. Finally, she must feel nice, as judged by the initial handshake. A lot can be communicated via that first touch, if one is attentive. Nothing else matters, and I will not proceed further, if she fails any or all of these.
DISCLAIMER: I would expect, and accept, her use of an equally rigorous filter on me. (And would reject her if she did not.)
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...i have lously friends that didnt bother to help me set someone up, didnt bother to give me advice on how to meet girls...
No one will help you because no one really knows how. Many years ago the best "advice" I got was from my best friend, and from a much older man at work. In both instances I mentioned a woman I liked and their responses were:
Friend: "Just bend her over."
Coworker: "Just go over there and mount her."
Clearly, they did not mean that literally but were simply saying, in the Guy-Speak of the time, that there is no science involved; stop (over)thinking and simply take direct action.
As for getting friends to set me up I, on numerous occasions, asked female friends if they knew anyone and they said "No" almost before I could complete the sentence, because they did not want to share me with other women. So perhaps ask relatives or male friends -- after making sure they know what you like, otherwise you might be bitterly disappointed with what/whom they feel is your type.
That’s the oldest, and easiest, trick in the book. The old “thanks but I’m in a relationship/married”.
Listen, you’ve got this unhealthy focus on service folks, cashiers, etc. with no less than 4 separate ones identified that you’ve obsessed on in just your posting history. You’re also targeting women that are 10 years younger than you.
You need to identify your own interests and find social outlets for those interests.
So, what do you like doing when you’re not working?
That’s the oldest, and easiest, trick in the book. The old “thanks but I’m in a relationship/married”.
Listen, you’ve got this unhealthy focus on service folks, cashiers, etc. with no less than 4 separate ones identified that you’ve obsessed on in just your posting history. You’re also targeting women that are 10 years younger than you.
You need to identify your own interests and find social outlets for those interests.
So, what do you like doing when you’re not working?
Is it correct that you still live at home?
i dont have alot of interests, i dont have friends, i dont drink i have a medal condition, yes i live at home.
i was thinking about looking a for relationship on zoosk or match.com but im very hesistant on it and i want to physically look but i dont know where to go, im not into bars since i dont drink. so i dont know what to do.
I met my wife on bumble. I was on it for 1 week before she messaged me. ( if you both swipe right, woman has to initiate the conversation within 24 hrs). Sure I came across a lot of trash or catfish, but there was a diamond in the rough. Be patient.
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i dont have alot of interests, i dont have friends, i dont drink i have a medal condition, yes i live at home.
Don't worry about dating and change these things first, as best as you can. Form social connections. Develop passions. You don't need to drink. But assuming you mean mental and not medal... treat that. Get independent. All those things come before dating.
because i found out this forum like 5 years ago and im very inexperienced and i have lously friends that didnt bother to help me set someone up, didnt bother to give me advice on how to meet girls, no one liked me in highschool and college, everyone was taken, so im pretty much in lonely land until i die because this society sucks.
Your lousy friends did not get you a partner device? The nerve of them! No one liked you! And it is all society's fault.
Truly. I am not trying to be mean. It does not matter where you look. You will not succeed with this attitude. Period. End of discussion.
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