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Old 12-17-2019, 06:05 AM
 
Location: CasaMo
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Why do you have to look at it as a “test”?
Because she's subconsciously seeing what type of guy he is. Is he a leader? Is he wishy washy? Boring? Does he know where fun activities are? She's also throwing the hint that she likes him enough to continue. It's very pivotal for guys. If they take charge, her like will continue. If they just shrug their shoulders, they blow it.

I don't it as conniving or scripted at all. Those were your words, not mine.
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Old 12-17-2019, 07:22 AM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Because she's subconsciously seeing what type of guy he is. Is he a leader? Is he wishy washy? Boring? Does he know where fun activities are? She's also throwing the hint that she likes him enough to continue. It's very pivotal for guys. If they take charge, her like will continue. If they just shrug their shoulders, they blow it.


All we know is that she asked him, "What else do you want to do?"

Maybe she's bad at making decisions.
Maybe she's one of those people who feels responsible for entertaining the person they are with.
Maybe she just wanted to know what else he wanted to do.

I agree with some parts of your premise in general, but there's no guarantee that any of this ^^ was going on.
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Old 12-17-2019, 08:08 AM
 
Location: CasaMo
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Maybe she's bad at making decisions.
Maybe she's one of those people who feels responsible for entertaining the person they are with.
Maybe she just wanted to know what else he wanted to do.
Maybe not.
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Old 12-17-2019, 08:21 AM
 
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She was letting you know she wanted to extend the date a little while longer. That's pretty much it.
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Old 12-17-2019, 08:21 AM
 
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Because she's subconsciously seeing what type of guy he is. Is he a leader? Is he wishy washy? Boring? Does he know where fun activities are? She's also throwing the hint that she likes him enough to continue. It's very pivotal for guys. If they take charge, her like will continue. If they just shrug their shoulders, they blow it.

I don't it as conniving or scripted at all. Those were your words, not mine.
Those were my words, and your words were that it was a test. Someone having to “test” is premeditated. Wanting to extend the activity is spontaneous in nature, it went well. The was no predicting that, unless someone looks at that action with preconceived notions of what women do.
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Old 12-17-2019, 08:27 AM
 
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"When in doubt, always kiss the girl."
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Old 12-17-2019, 08:37 AM
 
Location: From the Middle East of the USA
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The mind is busy when a first date is going good. One can not help if they find themselves feeling very attractive to their date. On top of that, if the conversation is good, the meal is good, and the chemistry is good, you can't but help and wonder sexually how this person would be. I don't think it's wrong to wonder initially, was this a hint for the bedroom?


But our conscience should kick in and recommend that we think about this in a virtuous way, as others have suggested. I'm glad the OP shared and posed the question the way he did.
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Old 12-17-2019, 09:42 AM
 
Location: Boulder, CO
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Gelato.


The correct answer was Gelato.
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Old 12-17-2019, 12:01 PM
 
Location: Crook County, Hellinois
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Why do you have to look at it as a “test”? Just because she was a female, and enjoyed his company enough to spend some more time with him, doesn’t make her conniving. Women don’t have scripts and plans anymore than men do.
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Because she's subconsciously seeing what type of guy he is. Is he a leader? Is he wishy washy? Boring? Does he know where fun activities are? She's also throwing the hint that she likes him enough to continue. It's very pivotal for guys. If they take charge, her like will continue. If they just shrug their shoulders, they blow it.
Women run tests reflexively; it's almost an autonomic thing, like a cough or a hiccup. It can be held in when absolutely necessary, like when hiding from snipers in trenches in World War I, but by and large, women do it on instinct. Namely, they want to make sure only highly desirable men get sexual with them, and the rest stay far far away. Since how women's attraction works has been public knowledge since 2012, and "how to" pick-up materials existed since early 2000's, women rely on tests to make sure a man is naturally desirable, rather than had studied some online materials.

So, the OP's lady friend wanted to make sure he was a dominant man who knows how to lead. "Leading" doesn't have to be into the bedroom, but she did test him to see how he thinks on his feet and takes charge. His solution to simply take a walk was an OK save, but it didn't pass her test with flying colors. Depending on what exactly they had for dinner, a better way to pass her test was to either go somewhere for dessert (including gelato) or find a place with a live band. Something like: "I'm up for some live music, anything except country. I'll get on my phone and look. You do the same; two heads are better than one." This way, you're only taking charge of the situation and stating your deal-breakers, you're also leading her.
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Old 12-17-2019, 12:06 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Oh come on.
lol!
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Originally Posted by BirdieBelle;
For what else were you expecting a “green light” from her?
. Yes, OP.
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