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Old 12-17-2019, 01:08 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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This. It was an opportunity to impress her with something romantic and imaginative.

For next time, have some things in mind, unique and interesting things, to do after dinner.

I doubt she was fishing to be invited back to your place, or hers, for private time. I think if she wanted that she would have been more direct and simply asked, "Can we go to your (or my) place to relax?"
Yup. As the person who set up the date and invited her (presumably), this is your job. So, now you know.
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Old 12-17-2019, 01:08 PM
 
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Gelato.


The correct answer was Gelato.
I thought the correct answer was always 42.
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Old 12-17-2019, 01:10 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Why do you have to look at it as a “test”? Just because she was a female, and enjoyed his company enough to spend some more time with him, doesn’t make her conniving. Women don’t have scripts and plans anymore than men do.

But OP, don’t think you should’ve invited her back to your place unless you have something really interesting going on their besides sex. Maybe if you live on a farm with animals it would’ve been a good suggestion, otherwise it sends a definite message.

Good thing you held off.
Seriously, people! The conspiracy-theory approach to dating generally isn't going to be very reality-based in most cases, and therefore not very productive or satisfying. OK, some guys do plan in advance to put the moves on women ASAP, mostly--the player types or the rare psychopath. But other than that, just relax and enjoy the person's company, rather than projecting diabolical intent onto your date.
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Old 12-17-2019, 01:38 PM
 
Location: Oklahoma City, OK
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She was letting you know she wanted to extend the date a little while longer. That's pretty much it.
^THIS. And as discussed in another thread, not appropriate to invite her back to your place on a first date unless her hand is down your pants, lol.
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Old 12-17-2019, 01:56 PM
 
Location: The ghetto
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green light for me to invite her back to my place?
OP, do you live with your parents? If so, are they ok with you bringing women back to their house for sex?

(I'm asking this not to bust your chops but rather because I noticed from your other threads that you go on vacations with your parents - which gives the impression that you live with them.)
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Old 12-17-2019, 02:39 PM
 
Location: The ghetto
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the OP's lady friend wanted to make sure he was a dominant man who knows how to lead.
Not all women are the same. I'd bet that for every woman who wants the guy to take charge, there will be a woman who wants to be the one to take charge...and there will also be a woman who wants to have a discussion and arrive at a mutual decision.
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Old 12-17-2019, 02:40 PM
 
Location: North Beach, MD on the Chesapeake
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You know, I don't remember dating ever being this hard or having so many rules 40 years ago.
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Old 12-17-2019, 03:10 PM
 
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You know, I don't remember dating ever being this hard or having so many rules 40 years ago.
Perhaps some analysis paralysis? Even 25 years ago, people weren't using the www for dating, reading or watching videos of self-proclaimed experts, etc , and passively sitting and analyzing what to do without actually doing any of it.

You asked someone out, they said yes or no. You learned through trial and error how to manage romantic interactions, rather than sitting at home in fear because of what you read online about someone else's experiences. If you needed advice, you asked people who knew you, not random people on the Internet.

Dating has always had its challenges but IMO, a lot of it seems self-inflicted these days.
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Old 12-17-2019, 03:18 PM
 
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OP, do you live with your parents? If so, are they ok with you bringing women back to their house for sex?

(I'm asking this not to bust your chops but rather because I noticed from your other threads that you go on vacations with your parents - which gives the impression that you live with them.)
He does, in fact, live with his parents.
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Old 12-17-2019, 03:20 PM
 
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Perhaps some analysis paralysis? Even 25 years ago, people weren't using the www for dating, reading or watching videos of self-proclaimed experts, etc , and passively sitting and analyzing what to do without actually doing any of it.

You asked someone out, they said yes or no. You learned through trial and error how to manage romantic interactions, rather than sitting at home in fear because of what you read online about someone else's experiences. If you needed advice, you asked people who knew you, not random people on the Internet.

Dating has always had its challenges but IMO, a lot of it seems self-inflicted these days.
This is brilliant and correct.
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