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Old 12-14-2019, 11:56 AM
 
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green light for me to invite her back to my place?

He had a nice dinner and as we walked down the street she asked...."what else do you want to do?"

Of course I couldnt think of anything so we ended up taking a longer walk to a area that had outdoor seating. I was going to invite her back but became a little shy but overall it was a good date. That's not a question I get a lot during a 1st date after about 3 hours.
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Old 12-14-2019, 12:36 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Well, we know where your mind automatically goes at the slightest gesture. I seriously doubt that's where her mind was going. "What else do you want to do" usually means "what else do you want to do", OP. It means she was enjoying your company, and wanted to extend the evening with some other public activity, like, IDK, maybe going to a scenic spot to enjoy the view, or going to a movie, or to an arcade of some sort, whichever direction her interests may lean. Are you really so impoverished of imagination, that the only thing you could think of was sex?

BTW, was this a first date, or what? More info needed.
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Old 12-14-2019, 12:41 PM
 
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Well, we know where your mind automatically goes at the slightest gesture. I seriously doubt that's where her mind was going. "What else do you want to do" usually means "what else do you want to do", OP. It means she was enjoying your company, and wanted to extend the evening with some other public activity, like, IDK, maybe going to a scenic spot to enjoy the view, or going to a movie, or to an arcade of some sort, whichever direction her interests may lean. Are you really so impoverished of imagination, that the only thing you could think of was sex?

BTW, was this a first date, or what? More info needed.
That's what I was thinking too, Ruth.
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Old 12-14-2019, 12:44 PM
 
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You could have asked if she wanted to come back to your place. You could have gone for drinks. Or you could have gone for a walk like you did. It sounds like she was having a good time and didn't want the evening to end. You will have another chance on your second date.
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Old 12-14-2019, 01:10 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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You could have asked if she wanted to come back to your place. You could have gone for drinks. Or you could have gone for a walk like you did. It sounds like she was having a good time and didn't want the evening to end. You will have another chance on your second date.
I recommend, OP, that for the next date, you plan an after-dinner activity (if you make it a dinner date again), so you'll be better prepared. There must be some evening activities in your city; maybe there's a museum that's open late on a certain night, or a bookstore you could have some fun browsing in. Think, man, think!
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Old 12-14-2019, 01:14 PM
 
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Well, we know where your mind automatically goes at the slightest gesture. I seriously doubt that's where her mind was going. "What else do you want to do" usually means "what else do you want to do", OP. It means she was enjoying your company, and wanted to extend the evening with some other public activity, like, IDK, maybe going to a scenic spot to enjoy the view, or going to a movie, or to an arcade of some sort, whichever direction her interests may lean. Are you really so impoverished of imagination, that the only thing you could think of was sex?

BTW, was this a first date, or what? More info needed.
Ok I wasnt sure if she wanted to enjoy my company in private lol yes it was a first date
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Old 12-14-2019, 01:29 PM
 
Location: SoCal
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You could suggest coffee at your place.
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Old 12-14-2019, 01:59 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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Don’t suggest going back to your place on The first date.

Have another activity in mind, a bar where they play live music or a dessert place, etc.

She obviously wanted to spend more time with you, but it wasn’t necessarily an invitation to make out or hook up.
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Old 12-14-2019, 02:01 PM
 
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Don’t suggest going back to your place on The first date.

Have another activity in mind, a bar where they play live music or a dessert place, etc.

She obviously wanted to spend more time with you, but it wasn’t necessarily an invitation to make out or hook up.
But it didnt mean I was expecting sex just a more private situation.
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Old 12-14-2019, 02:03 PM
 
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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But it didnt mean I was expecting sex just a more private situation.
Oh come on.
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