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need to invest in your 6 points of conversation skills, make 6 figures, grow 6 inch penis, and grow to 6 feet tall. If you can't do those things, then playing 6 hours of video games a day will alleviate your stress.
Sure, but life does not end when you leave college. You can still find significant others outside of college. I've met a few people outside of college.
I honestly think high school, college and being young is a bit overrated. Becoming an adult, maturing, and even growing old is a part of life.
There are still places you can go to meet people. People are meeting all the way to 50 and beyond. You just have to open your mind. Unless...you are in one of those extremely small towns in the middle of nowhere, then you may have to plan on relocating.
WEll, maybe it was different in the 90s I suppose when I was in college. It was a major hook up venue if you were into casual flings or...the temporary girlfriend/boyfriend.
Funny how you mention small towns. I would keep seeing the same faces of the overly picky women in these small towns that perpetually stay on these sites. Some I have already messaged on an annual basis. lol. No response. Some I've even seen eventually pop up on FB's "People you may know" feed. Yes, if you live in a town small enough, they'll eventually pop up on social media. lol
If anything they should try moving, but I guess here they still remain. Of course, they may be okay with staying picky and remaining a permanent fixture of the dating site.
That said, I keep a constant look out for newcomers to the area though. The "New in town" types...usually they move here to be closer to immediate family after living in the big city.
Weird, college is typically THE premo place to meet your first future spouse. Come graduation time, I knew of a lot of actively dating couples schedule their marriages around the same time the walked with their degrees.
If you left college without a sig other.....your chances of finding someone goes down significantly.
Honestly, people in college were capable of pulling off both dating and studying.
My dating life actually got better after I graduated from college. Funny how that works
Like it or not there are a small percentage of men who are simply not viable dating options. Yes, there is a such thing as someone who is undatable and not at all suited to being in a relationship who few women (if any) would want.
Creating these societal pressures that everyone MUST be in a relationship, MUST have sex or they're freaks and weirdo's is not helpful at all and it puts all sorts of ridiculous pressures on men.
I'm a 33 year old kissless virgin who's never been on a date, never held hands or even hugged, now it goes without saying that I do have some obvious social problems and do find it very difficult to form close relationships with people generally (just even being friends) so its not surprising for me to be the situation I'm in I guess. I might die that way, if that's the case, then so be it, that's life eh?
But I'm not going to get myself bogged down by it or waste my time whining about on internet forums or blaming other people. Some people aren't that popular and I'm probably one of them, its not been easy, it absolutely wrecks your self esteem, but I'm learning to live with it and I'm wanting to fulfill my life in different ways if I can should that not ever be resolved.
Woman btw don't have an obligation to HAVE to date you if they don't want to. Dating and being in a relationship is not some given right, some people either have to work VERY VERY hard at it, or accept they're just not that desireable.
Like it or not there are a small percentage of men who are simply not viable dating options. Yes, there is a such thing as someone who is undatable and not at all suited to being in a relationship who few women (if any) would want.
Creating these societal pressures that everyone MUST be in a relationship, MUST have sex or they're freaks and weirdo's is not helpful at all and it puts all sorts of ridiculous pressures on men.
I'm a 33 year old kissless virgin who's never been on a date, never held hands or even hugged, now it goes without saying that I do have some obvious social problems and do find it very difficult to form close relationships with people generally (just even being friends) so its not surprising for me to be the situation I'm in I guess. I might die that way, if that's the case, then so be it, that's life eh?
But I'm not going to get myself bogged down by it or waste my time whining about on internet forums or blaming other people. Some people aren't that popular and I'm probably one of them, its not been easy, it absolutely wrecks your self esteem, but I'm learning to live with it and I'm wanting to fulfill my life in different ways if I can should that not ever be resolved.
Woman btw don't have an obligation to HAVE to date you if they don't want to. Dating and being in a relationship is not some given right, some people either have to work VERY VERY hard at it, or accept they're just not that desireable.
exactly correct. It's been this way throughout human history. It's only in more recent western society that men and women feel entitled to certain things, leading to frustration when things dont pan out they way they expected them to. Coming to an understanding that life isn't fair, and that no matter how hard one tries, they may not achieve success.
Weird, college is typically THE premo place to meet your first future spouse. Come graduation time, I knew of a lot of actively dating couples schedule their marriages around the same time the walked with their degrees.
If you left college without a sig other.....your chances of finding someone goes down significantly.
Honestly, people in college were capable of pulling off both dating and studying.
This is an outdated meme. These days, so many people are working their way through school, a lot of people don't have time to date. We had one poster here, who said that after graduation, he suddenly started getting messages from women he was in classes with in college. They were contacting him to see if he was available to date, now that they had school behind them, and had the time for it.
Yes, the probability that you will not succeed at dating is higher if you fall under the following conditions
1. You are really ugly
2. You are very obese
3. Have a serious physical disability that requires assistance.
I'm in #3 and dating is a serious challenge for me.
4. If you suffer from serious social anxiety where you are very socially awkward to the point where you struggle to make friends or form serious long term relationships.
People always point to asthestics as the reason why somebody might be a virgin, and although that might be true for some people who wait slightly longer than others, but to be a virgin well into your 30s an beyond, you really have to have some serious social problems to get to that point without ever kissing, holding hands, hugging etc. There has to be a serious personality defect that prohibits you from getting close to any other human being.
Now I'm not disputing no.3 is a serious hinderance, it absolutely is, but I guess even people with disabilities can break the ice if they have charm and personality and also can socialise with other people with similar disabilities (perhaps I'm wrong in that mind, but I guess its possible?). I'm not in that position so I don't know, I don't dispute that its difficult though.
People who are virgin's at my age or older, often socially have 'odd' personalities (if not a virgin by choice), which I'm happy to admit I definitely do. I'm extremely socially awkward in real life off internet forums and people get that vibe off me.
But at the same time, those 100 guys all chose that one girl, not asking out who knows how many other women. In your scenario, men have the choice; women can only respond.
In my scenario, still women choose.
Men ask and women reject, which means women have a say in this. When a woman comes to the point of stopping to reject, she will have choosen a guy. Lol.
All a woman has to do is choose one guy out of 100 guys asking her out.
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