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This girl that I've been talking to and been on a few dates with has some pretty interesting pictures posted on instagram and I'm not sure how to feel about it or more importantly what it could mean about her.
She's 25, I'm 29. It feels like we have an awesome connection, have a great time together, talk all the time, do fun things together, she's really cool. I really enjoy my time with her and am interested to see if this could go some where but I was checking out her instagram and I'm not sure what to think.
Most of her pictures are of just her. A few "thirst trap" type pictures. And most recently, pictures of her on two different vacations, topless, with emojis to cover her breasts/nipples. And she's not one of those Instagram models or influencers and doesn't have any aspirations to be either.
I don't mind nudity if I'm on vacation with my girlfriend, but I'm not sure how I'd feel about her posting it on the internet like that. (Not that she's my girlfriend right now)
I'm mostly asking if this is a red flag so to speak? What could it indicate about her and her potential to be a good partner for a long term relationship?
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I think power to her and its really weird to think its an indicator about anything.
But undoubtedly you'll have lots of conservative minds go off shortly about how she is an "attention ______", and will always need attention from other guys, blah blah... and more sloot shaming type nonsense. Stand by.
But they weren't really nudes were they? How is what she posted different from posting a pic of her in a bikini? And as you said, you aren't serious yet so... Not really sure what you are seeking here? Only you know how this makes you feel? But is sounds as though you feel a little possessive, even though you aren't serious. And even if you were serious, you claim to not have an issue with toplessness on vacation... but is sounds as though you really do. Or is the real issue that this all happened without you?
This girl that I've been talking to and been on a few dates with has some pretty interesting pictures posted on instagram and I'm not sure how to feel about it or more importantly what it could mean about her.
She's 25, I'm 29. It feels like we have an awesome connection, have a great time together, talk all the time, do fun things together, she's really cool. I really enjoy my time with her and am interested to see if this could go some where but I was checking out her instagram and I'm not sure what to think.
Most of her pictures are of just her. A few "thirst trap" type pictures. And most recently, pictures of her on two different vacations, topless, with emojis to cover her breasts/nipples. And she's not one of those Instagram models or influencers and doesn't have any aspirations to be either.
I don't mind nudity if I'm on vacation with my girlfriend, but I'm not sure how I'd feel about her posting it on the internet like that. (Not that she's my girlfriend right now)
I'm mostly asking if this is a red flag so to speak? What could it indicate about her and her potential to be a good partner for a long term relationship?
What does everybody think?
If it's a red flag to YOU, that's all that really matters, isn't it?
IMO, you are not in a place where you can ask her to stop. MAYBE when you're in a committed and exclusive relationship, you can ASK her about it and feel her out on if she'd be willing to stop posting topless pictures...but IMO, it's ALL about asking. Not telling.
But they weren't really nudes were they? How is what she posted different from posting a pic of her in a bikini? And as you said, you aren't serious yet so... Not really sure what you are seeking here? Only you know how this makes you feel? But is sounds as though you feel a little possessive, even though you aren't serious. And even if you were serious, you claim to not have an issue with toplessness on vacation... but is sounds as though you really do. Or is the real issue that this all happened without you?
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Originally Posted by Sassybluesy
If it's a red flag to YOU, that's all that really matters, isn't it?
IMO, you are not in a place where you can ask her to stop. MAYBE when you're in a committed and exclusive relationship, you can ASK her about it and feel her out on if she'd be willing to stop posting topless pictures...but IMO, it's ALL about asking. Not telling.
This isn't at all about possessing her or asking her to stop or anything like that. I very much understand we're not together or anything like that.
But when you're dating and hanging out with somebody you're thinking about and evaluating if that person is a good partner for you.
So I'm just asking what people think and what their experiences have taught them to put together a more informed and thought out opinion on this.
On the one hand, yea I think it's pretty sexy she's so confident in her body. On the other hand, it worries me a bit that she does seek attention and validation and who knows what could be going on in her DMs. None of my friends girlfriends/wives/fiances have ever or would ever post pictures like this so it's definitely pause for thought.
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