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Old 12-31-2019, 05:48 AM
 
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Definitely tell him to drop off your stuff at your friends house. I watch Forensic Files too much and this (meeting up with him) is how women get killed. I'm not kidding.

And if you don't like how extreme that sounds then just know that your current boyfriend probably will not appreciate you meeting up with your ex. And if you don't like how that sounds, then just know that he probably wants to either grill you in some uncomfortable way, or try to become pretend "friends" so he can attempt to rekindle a romantic relationship with you on the sly. Send him a Youtube video on why you don't need closure and how to move on.
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Old 12-31-2019, 11:36 AM
 
Location: Traveling
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My immediate thought was of the ex boyfriend who almost succeeded in killing the girl. As it is, he managed to disfigure her.

Do NOT meet with this person. Danger signs there.
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Old 12-31-2019, 11:40 AM
 
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I can't speak for this guy, but in general closure is a real thing.
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Old 12-31-2019, 11:42 AM
 
Location: Traveling
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So is death.
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Old 12-31-2019, 01:06 PM
 
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So I replied that I was booked and couldn’t meet him. Then today he sent me a friend request via Facebook since I unfriended him recently and he sent me a text saying “beautiful new pic and take care of yourself” I updated my profile picture last night. Do you think I can put this behind me now and it was his way of saying goodbye?
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Old 12-31-2019, 01:12 PM
 
Location: SoCal again
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So I replied that I was booked and couldn’t meet him. Then today he sent me a friend request via Facebook since I unfriended him recently and he sent me a text saying “beautiful new pic and take care of yourself” I updated my profile picture last night. Do you think I can put this behind me now and it was his way of saying goodbye?
Why did you leave the door open?? you could have just replied to him that you are NOT going to meet him AT ALL and that he should not contact you again.

Do you WANT him to contact you again? Because if you are not clear, he will keep doing it. And you should have blocked him from Facebook. You really WANT the drama, it seems.
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Old 12-31-2019, 01:22 PM
 
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No, he is trying to weasel his way back in. Block him already.
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Old 12-31-2019, 01:23 PM
 
Location: Redwood City, CA
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Please tell me this is not going to end in tears and rug burns.
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Old 12-31-2019, 01:25 PM
 
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So I replied that I was booked and couldn’t meet him. Then today he sent me a friend request via Facebook since I unfriended him recently and he sent me a text saying “beautiful new pic and take care of yourself” I updated my profile picture last night. Do you think I can put this behind me now and it was his way of saying goodbye?
No he wants to get back with you and you are totally missing the signs...

In terms of closure, that's a gift you give to yourself. He can get closure from.himself. You cannot give him closure amd are not needed in that equation.

Maybe he can drop your things off and have your boyfriend answer the door...lol
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Old 12-31-2019, 01:26 PM
 
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So I replied that I was booked and couldn’t meet him. Then today he sent me a friend request via Facebook since I unfriended him recently and he sent me a text saying “beautiful new pic and take care of yourself” I updated my profile picture last night. Do you think I can put this behind me now and it was his way of saying goodbye?
Who cares what he is trying to say. Put it behind you for you.
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