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I got married about a month ago and I havent met my in laws yet because they live in another city. I think it’s weird that I havent met any of my husbands family but he does talk about them. When we got married we did the courthouse thing and plan to have an actual wedding once things slow down with him at work. So since there has not been a wedding I have not met any of his family yet. He has met my sister but I don’t have much family to introduce him to anymore.
Over the holidays like Christmas and Thanksgiving I expected us to go visit his family but he went alone both times. I asked him why we couldn’t go together and both times he told me he wanted to tell them in person he got married and not just over the phone and he wanted to be alone when he told them. So I stayed behind both times. But now I’m starting to wedding plan and when I ask when I can meet them he says soon but then changes the subject.
That seems weird right? Its not just me? I know they exist because I’ve seen pictures and stuff so I don’t know what it could be.
I got married about a month ago and I havent met my in laws yet because they live in another city. I think it’s weird that I havent met any of my husbands family but he does talk about them. When we got married we did the courthouse thing and plan to have an actual wedding once things slow down with him at work. So since there has not been a wedding I have not met any of his family yet. He has met my sister but I don’t have much family to introduce him to anymore.
Over the holidays like Christmas and Thanksgiving I expected us to go visit his family but he went alone both times. I asked him why we couldn’t go together and both times he told me he wanted to tell them in person he got married and not just over the phone and he wanted to be alone when he told them. So I stayed behind both times. But now I’m starting to wedding plan and when I ask when I can meet them he says soon but then changes the subject.
That seems weird right? Its not just me? I know they exist because I’ve seen pictures and stuff so I don’t know what it could be.
Pick a date to go visit together and on the day itself even if he cancels to go, you just go by yourself to visit them.You are their daughter-in-law and you can visit on your own by yourself. Meeting and talking to inlaws is important and should be done quite early on as it reveals a lot of things.
Pick a date to go visit together and on the day itself even if he cancels to go, you just go by yourself to visit them.You are their daughter-in-law and you can visit on your own by yourself. Meeting and talking to inlaws is important and should be done quite early on as it reveals a lot of things.
Should I talk to them on FB or send a message first?
Because it seems there are more details, such as he is a widow, has two kids, and he wanted you to convert to his religion (before marriage, I would assume?)
This might be why he is shy to even tell his parents that he got married (the different faith than his parents, the fairly short courtship, etc).
Because it seems there are more details, such as he is a widow, has two kids, and he wanted you to convert to his religion (before marriage, I would assume?)
This might be why he is shy to even tell his parents that he got married (the different faith than his parents, the fairly short courtship, etc).
Unless you are talking about a different guy?
No this is an ex I reconnected with. We were friends first and I loved being with him then things got serious but we had multiple issues. We ended up breaking up but then worked out our probs and got back together.
The other guy and me didn’t work out because of his faith. I was willing to convert but there were issues there and it was long distance and really hard plus his parents already had s match for him in their heads
No this is an ex I reconnected with. We were friends first and I loved being with him then things got serious but we had multiple issues. We ended up breaking up but then worked out our probs and got back together.
The other guy and me didn’t work out because of his faith. I was willing to convert but there were issues there and it was long distance and really hard plus his parents already had s match for him in their heads
That would mean you've been back with your current husband since maybe March? 9 months? Why do YOU think he hasn't told his parents, wants to tell them alone, etc? His parents had issues with you two before? You have more insight than we do.
You got married?! I'd say congratulations but your overall situation does seem really weird. I'm not really getting why you couldn't be brought to Christmas at least, but it just sounds like he hasn't told them at all. Don't plan the wedding until he actually introduces you to family... And don't cross out the divorce option because it's quite possible you got major red flags coming. But then again it's possible he has toxic family dynamic-- either way you need to see what's going on here.
He is afraid to introduce you to his family, and probably didn't even say that he is married now. Fears that they will nor approve you. Obviously he cares about their opinion...
Not a good sign.
How long he thinks he can hide you and his marital status?
Is he active on social media? Any word about you there?
Any of his friends know about you? Is he wearing a wedding ring? Did he change his status at work?
Did you ask him if he announced his marriage to the family during those two holiday visits?
What about his two kids? Didn't he marry you so you would help him raise his kids? Are you living together or still long distance.
What is his religion?
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