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Sometimes when I am dating I meet a real nice guy, and for me it takes a while for me to get to know them and really want to date them. In some cases during that process, I will start to notice a guy really liking me, but I am unsure.
I don't know why but I start to feel a little guilty. Almost like I am scared that he will develop feelings, I will not and then he will be hurt. This tends to only really happen when I see the guy is really nice and sweet. If it's a guy that is nice, but not THAT nice, I don't feel so guilty.
Sometimes when I am dating I meet a real nice guy, and for me it takes a while for me to get to know them and really want to date them. In some cases during that process, I will start to notice a guy really liking me, but I am unsure.
I don't know why but I start to feel a little guilty. Almost like I am scared that he will develop feelings, I will not and then he will be hurt. This tends to only really happen when I see the guy is really nice and sweet. If it's a guy that is nice, but not THAT nice, I don't feel so guilty.
Anyone experience the same?
To be real...
I understand. Dating and relationships can be harsh.
I'm fortunate in that if I do meet a woman and she has deep feelings, even if I am not attracted to her, I can become attracted to her and come to value her more than anyone else.
Unfortunately that's just the way that it is. When people date, they have to be aware of the risks. Which is mismatched attraction, feelings, timelines, etc. That's just what it is. It sucks but we really have no control over this. I have been in several situations where mutual attraction never develops. It has always been one sided. It hasn't made me back off per se, but it taught me not to "give chances" to everyone, no matter how great they are on paper. Especially if there is no mutual attraction/chemistry. Fortunately for me, I can figure this out early on.
I back off from dating after a string of a-holes, not because the guys are too nice. I have felt guilty like you, if a really sweet guy seems to like me a lot but I'm not there yet. But you feel how you feel. It's best to trust your instincts and not try to rush into anything. I think it's too early for them to be liking anyone that much anyway, especially if we just met, so now I just question their intentions and their mental stability if they seem to like me too much too early on.
Unfortunately that's just the way that it is. When people date, they have to be aware of the risks. Which is mismatched attraction, feelings, timelines, etc. That's just what it is. It sucks but we really have no control over this. I have been in several situations where mutual attraction never develops. It has always been one sided. It hasn't made me back off per se, but it taught me not to "give chances" to everyone, no matter how great they are on paper. Especially if there is no mutual attraction/chemistry. Fortunately for me, I can figure this out early on.
I back off from dating after a string of a-holes, not because the guys are too nice. I have felt guilty like you, if a really sweet guy seems to like me a lot but I'm not there yet. But you feel how you feel. It's best to trust your instincts and not try to rush into anything. I think it's too early for them to be liking anyone that much anyway, especially if we just met, so now I just question their intentions and their mental stability if they seem to like me too much too early on.
Yup, this is a good point. It's just one of those things I know how it feels, so it sucks to have to do it to others, but at the same time that is life.
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