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I agree with you. I date one lady and have for 5 years, however, the past 2 years this decline thing has "0" to do with her its me BUT she takes it personally. For now, she had to go help a sick family member so she is not around. BUT when she visits I feel like "expectations " are there.
I just find it so much "work" I just am not interested in trying. She understands to a point, but I am not going to "do it" when I just don't feel like it. It is so nice to go to bed and not "have to"
I am glad she isn't here often BUT she wants to return. She likes me and I like her BUT I just find it to be so much "work" to be intimate.
Uh really? Hmmm, trying to stay with in forum guidelines, so not being graphic.
If you care about her I would think you would want to take care of your woman. You need not "rise" to the occasion. God granted you a tongue. fingers, and technology. I don't think there is a woman around in the modern era who does not have one of more BOBs ask her to bring her's over or better yet, be a sport and take a trip to the adult bookstore (or more boringly shop on-line) together and have her pick one out that stays at your place for you to apply to her when she is there. She should show you how, as she is the best guide to her body. Or at minimum have her use BOB while you hold her, cuddle her, and kiss her forehead.
Really, women have taken care of their men for some time when they are really not interested, it seems the least we can do is reciprocate.
Some holistic doctors (MD's) recommend the herb Ashwaganda as a "natural" hormone-replacement for low libido in men and women. You could give it a try. It's from the Ayurvedic pharmacopeia from India.
I forgot to mention, I also have lost hair over the past 12 years I am nearly bald now and grey, I am not terribly overweight but can stand to lose 15 lbs. The overall lethargic feeling.along with 0 interest in sex & having weeks of this over the past year is a concern. Is this normal as we age???????
Start a gym routine. It improves the circulation to ALL parts of the body.
Also, yoga tends to increase testosterone; that's what it was invented for, originally--as preparation for ritual sex in sex cults in ancient times. Read "The Science of Yoga", by William Broad, to learn about this history and culture relating to yoga.
OTOH, OP, you could look for a partner, who also is at the point where she couldn't care less about sex, and just wants quality companionship. They're definitely around.
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Uh really? Hmmm, trying to stay with in forum guidelines, so not being graphic.
If you care about her I would think you would want to take care of your woman. You need not "rise" to the occasion. God granted you a tongue. fingers, and technology. I don't think there is a woman around in the modern era who does not have one of more BOBs ask her to bring her's over or better yet, be a sport and take a trip to the adult bookstore (or more boringly shop on-line) together and have her pick one out that stays at your place for you to apply to her when she is there. She should show you how, as she is the best guide to her body. Or at minimum have her use BOB while you hold her, cuddle her, and kiss her forehead.
Really, women have taken care of their men for some time when they are really not interested, it seems the least we can do is reciprocate.
Seems you either cannot read? or not understand..........
when you have no desire, it is not that easy.......
it is like asking someone that has ran a mile and cannot run anymore to run another mile.
you seem to have no idea what its like to have a problem so big that you hit a wall.
its not as easy as just go to a book store together
It is normal aging. Stop feeling like you should, no, you don’t have to have sex if you don’t feel like it. Embrace it, with how you feel the pleasure probably isn’t there for either of you. Lack luster sex or none, I’D take none rather than a disinterested partner just going through the motions.
If you want to do something about this, you need another doctor. Someone who specializes is hormone issues, and will look at the ENTIRE hormone picture and work to OPTIMIZE all your hormones for good health. I've been doing so for years, and it has made a huge difference - and not just my sex life and libido, although that is the main motivator. It improves mood, energy levels, and helps either build muscle mass or maintain it - something that is a problem for many older men.
Seems kind of young to lose your sex drive, but everyones different and average is just a number. Personally, I had plenty of sex drive in my mid 50's.
My testosterone level dropped off a lot in my 50s. With a prescription from my doctor, I started using Androgel and life returned to normal. Recently, I became a victim of Medicare (it SUCKS compared to my previous health insurance). My Humana Advantage Plan will not pay for testosterone therapy (about $400-$900 per month). After a lot of research I discovered I could have a similar formula compounded at a pharmacy for only $40 per month.
If your doctor will prescribe it, look for a "compounding pharmacy" if you don't have coverage. Their product works every bit as well!
No Viagra or Cialis for me! Morning wood is back!
Perhaps you should focus more on why you are tired.
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Morning wood is back!
