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Originally Posted by moongirl00
But your whole argument is based on your belief that a 48 year old man with a 6 day a week job and kids on Sunday should be acting like a horny 17 year old or else something must be wrong, because you and your fiance act like horny 17 year olds.
Its ok for a guy in his situation to want a night to relax and cuddle with his girlfriend. Its not a red flag. Its quite understandable.
No that wasn't my argument.......not one itty bit............
It is that she has a right to her feelings too.....but that she has to understand his situation.................& if it bothers her or it happens lots.... then maybe she is going to have to accept they aren't right for each other..............different people have different sex drives & kids make a big difference in other ways too IMO.....................
She is just as allowed to her feelings & needs.......as he is to his & his kids........& when they have only been dating for 4 months.....now is the time to look at honestly & decide if they fit together..........
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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Originally Posted by moongirl00
But your whole argument is based on your belief that a 48 year old man with a 6 day a week job and kids on Sunday should be acting like a horny 17 year old or else something must be wrong, because you and your fiance act like horny 17 year olds.
Its ok for a guy in his situation to want a night to relax and cuddle with his girlfriend. Its not a red flag. Its quite understandable.
Its not only ok. Its actually a good sign. He isn't wanting to spend time with her just for the sex. He likes just being with her.
This isn't something to be concerned about, its something to be happy about, but the op twists everything to a crisis or concern.
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Her OP didnt ask "I was so horny and needed an orgasm and he didnt give me one." She asked if she should be concerned, as in, was he losing interest?
You are answering as if the big O is the be all and end all. The rest of us are telling her that his behavior is normal given his situation.
This is about her feelings.......& her need to write a post like she did after only dating the man for 4 months...........if for any reason she is feeling he is losing interest.........who are we to say it isn't true? IMO there's more to it than just 1 night......or she wouldn't write the post. He should be making her feel wanted & desired IMO...........even if he isn't up to it 1 of the 2 nights they see each other...........they have been dating 4 months, not marrid 10 yrs.........
Location: RI, MA, VT, WI, IL, CA, IN (that one sucked), KY
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This is about her feelings.......& her need to write a post like she did after only dating the man for 4 months...........if for any reason she is feeling he is losing interest.........who are we to say it isn't true? IMO there's more to it than just 1 night......or she wouldn't write the post. He should be making her feel wanted & desired IMO...........even if he isn't up to it 1 of the 2 nights they see each other...........they have been dating 4 months, not marrid 10 yrs.........
She writes a half dozen posts about everyone she has a couple of dates with! And yes, she makes posts about tiny things happening once.
Seriously, review her posting history, its made up crisis after crisis. She has extreme anxiety and insecurities and it comes up every time she dates.
This is about her feelings.......& her need to write a post like she did after only dating the man for 4 months...........if for any reason she is feeling he is losing interest.........who are we to say it isn't true? IMO there's more to it than just 1 night......or she wouldn't write the post. He should be making her feel wanted & desired IMO...........even if he isn't up to it 1 of the 2 nights they see each other...........they have been dating 4 months, not marrid 10 yrs.........
Its not healthy to need sex as a requirement in order to feel wanted. He told her he loves her and raved on how wonderful things were, this night they didnt have sex.
Sex should not be a requirement one must have in order to feel loved and wanted.
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Its not healthy to need sex as a requirement in order to feel wanted. He told her he loves her and raved on how wonderful things were, this night they didnt have sex.
Sex should not a requirement ok ne must have in order to feel loved and wanted.
You can feel needed or desired without sex.........ofc...........
You know by how a man treats you or talks about you or is around you...........that he wants you.....or loves you...........but it didn't seem like in her opinion her Bf made it very clear.......or she wouldn't be posting about it.........
e d i t: I wouldn't be in a relationship where I had any doubt about how he feels............& IMO other people shouldn't settle for that either....it's not really the sex...........it's knowing you are loved....respected.....desired......
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