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I agree. Older dudes who only date much younger usually are very immature or something else wrong with them. Every single time I meet someone older who tells me they usually date 10+ years younger, I break it off immediately. Been there, done that, they were undatable. Too many red flags.
Why are you so butthurt about that general statement, steel?
That sounds like you don't even give them the benefit of the doubt. I date younger, but usually not 10+ years. Although my parents had a 12 year age difference. I wouldn't automatically eliminate someone just for that.
I make no secret of the fact that my fiance is 20 years older than me. Neither of us is exactly a "normal" person...he did not do many of the things that most people do, had very little experience, no divorces or kids, there were things about him that some women wouldn't be into. But he's a perfect match for me in so many ways! And I for him. So what might be "wrong with him" to someone, was "right about him" to me.
He said he couldn't really connect with women his age, and while he admitted that part of it was a matter of physical attraction, he said that he also just doesn't feel like a man of his age. Unlike a lot of older people, he isn't set in some inflexible mindset developed in his youth, he's up on a lot of contemporary media and entertainment, he just...doesn't feel or act "old." And he's taken great care of himself, he doesn't look old and despite a few minor health things he maintains and regular visits with the doctor...he's not suffering any of the more serious ailments of an older dude. He's very active.
(EDIT: Just thought of a recent thing, he's making tongue-in-cheek "OK Boomer" jokes at my teenage sons. He is a Boomer. My kids think he's cool.)
So, this stuff is pretty subjective, I figure. *shrug*
That sounds like you don't even give them the benefit of the doubt. I date younger, but usually not 10+ years. Although my parents had a 12 year age difference. I wouldn't automatically eliminate someone just for that.
I am talking about 10+ and guys who specifically target much, much younger women.
Just flat ask if he is attached. If he is, say ohbthats too bad and let it go. If not, tell him you think he is a cool dude and ask him If he would like to hang out with you some time. Some older guys shy away from much younger women, some don't. It could go either way.
That sounds like you don't even give them the benefit of the doubt. I date younger, but usually not 10+ years. Although my parents had a 12 year age difference. I wouldn't automatically eliminate someone just for that.
I have dated much younger women but never targeted them. They just seem to like me and I never had a problem with them. But as Eve says, it does give you a stigma with women over 40 who think there is something wrong with a man who dates someone half their age. I have also been labeled immature because of the things I like to do. It bothers some women that a guy has dated much younger. I have been told buy a couple women they felt insecure after meeting the younger gals I dated (still friends) because they don't look as good. It is a hard thing to get around.
What cracks me up is one woman I dated on a off told me it was "disgusting" and I should be ashamed dating someone half my age. Then she posts on FB pics of her in Vegas with a guy half her age. I call her on it and "oh that's different" he was just a one night stand and you dated that girl for a year! WTF?
Dating younger gals is fun but it does come with consequences.
Just ask! You don't have to be sure of anything - you don't have to know if he is married, or has a girlfriend, or be certain he was flirting with you. By asking, all will be revealed! And if you're mid 20's and he's 40, you don't need to do anything special beyond asking. And so what if he says no - big deal, move on.
I have dated much younger women but never targeted them. They just seem to like me and I never had a problem with them. But as Eve says, it does give you a stigma with women over 40 who think there is something wrong with a man who dates someone half their age. I have also been labeled immature because of the things I like to do. It bothers some women that a guy has dated much younger. I have been told buy a couple women they felt insecure after meeting the younger gals I dated (still friends) because they don't look as good. It is a hard thing to get around.
What cracks me up is one woman I dated on a off told me it was "disgusting" and I should be ashamed dating someone half my age. Then she posts on FB pics of her in Vegas with a guy half her age. I call her on it and "oh that's different" he was just a one night stand and you dated that girl for a year! WTF?
Dating younger gals is fun but it does come with consequences.
It doesn't make me feel insecure if I meet a guy who usually dates women half his age. I lose respect, even if I try not to, it happens automatically. It makes me think he just wants a bimbo, and that's just not me.
I wonder, why he doesn't want an equal partner. Why does he want to have someone who is not on his level maturity wise, life experience wise and intellectually. Yes, a 25 year old can have gone through a lot but realistically, you are way ahead and it shows in every aspect of life.
And when you are excited about a Pink Floyd concert and she has no idea who that is, come on … I think men with much younger women are immature and need to dominate their partner, they are insecure and need someone who is below them, maybe they like the drama or are causing it themselves and a person their own age would not put up with it.
It doesn't make me feel insecure if I meet a guy who usually dates women half his age. I lose respect, even if I try not to, it happens automatically. It makes me think he just wants a bimbo, and that's just not me.
I wonder, why he doesn't want an equal partner. Why does he want to have someone who is not on his level maturity wise, life experience wise and intellectually. Yes, a 25 year old can have gone through a lot but realistically, you are way ahead and it shows in every aspect of life.
And when you are excited about a Pink Floyd concert and she has no idea who that is, come on … I think men with much younger women are immature and need to dominate their partner, they are insecure and need someone who is below them, maybe they like the drama or are causing it themselves and a person their own age would not put up with it.
Yep to the bold. The older guy I dated definitely wanted to feel in control and he was a major drama queen, more so than I was even at 23.
Yep to the bold. The older guy I dated definitely wanted to feel in control and he was a major drama queen, more so than I was even at 23.
yep, that is my experience, too. Exactly the same.
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