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Also, for what it's worth, I don't do my internet snooping out of any thought that I'm being lied to or tricked, or to prevent any kind of bad thing. I tend to be able to tell after meeting someone if they're feeding me lies or if there's a weird vibe to them. I've had partners where I could tell they were not being honest or forthcoming with me. There are even areas of privacy with a good relationship (such as what I feel I've got now) where I can get a sense that there's something he'd rather not share, and I respect it and back off. Hell, I have my own closet-skeletons, I guess, but the thing is...people don't usually share that kind of thing on the internet, unless they are stupid.
So I'm not looking for dirt. I'm just looking because I'm interested in a person, so I would like more information. "Why yes, sir, I WOULD like to see the brochure! Thank you!" lol
Thing about the "dirt" is that I've found that when I can sense that someone is lying, very often, nearly always, if I'm patient, they will give themselves away with no detective work needed on my part. Every guy who was trying to cheat on his wife, I believe, came out and told me so before we got anywhere near intimacy. Secrets are hard to keep, they're heavy, they feel bad to carry around. People tell on themselves, usually.
So I won't pretend to justify my "research" by saying I'm trying to keep myself safe. Nope. I'm just nosy! lol
I social media search but at very high level. I do it more as I am curious to see if they know anyone that I do. Aside from that I normally don't care to see what else they have.
Maybe he is working up the courage -- a lot of men can be pretty dense and slow about that, even if they know there is interest. Just don't sell yourself short by assuming he is out of your league.
It's not so much that he's "out of her league" as it is the fact that she found out he's 12 years younger than she is, only 30.
I seem to recall a thread not long ago made by a 25 year old woman who wanted to date a 50 year old man and you seemed fine with that.
Is it different if the woman is older?
Im not being combative. I really want to know if there is a difference.
Just inserting some reality into this thread.
YOU are the one who said you couldn't "in good conscience" date him because of that age difference. I figured some people who are replying aren't aware of that.
YOU are the one who said you couldn't "in good conscience" date him because of that age difference. I figured some people who are replying aren't aware of that.
Maybe I was hasty. It would be up to him if he were all right with that or not. And he is of sound mind so able to choose himself. He's very smart and careful with his life choices so if it came to that I dont think he would act on impulse or give in to pressure.
Maybe I was hasty. It would be up to him if he were all right with that or not. And he is of sound mind so able to choose himself. He's very smart and careful with his life choices so if it came to that I dont think he would act on impulse or give in to pressure.
So I see your attempt to control your obsessive thoughts isn’t going well
Maybe I was hasty. It would be up to him if he were all right with that or not. And he is of sound mind so able to choose himself. He's very smart and careful with his life choices so if it came to that I dont think he would act on impulse or give in to pressure.
Ok, so does he know you are in your 40's, single and "on the hunt" ?
Ok, so does he know you are in your 40's, single and "on the hunt" ?
I dont know what he knows about me, unless he snooped too, then he probably knows a lot.
Im not on the hunt though. I just happened to meet a guy I like. It wasnt a plan. (I dont do any kind of on line dating nor go to bars to try to meet people.)
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