Red flags, here we go. (marrying, attracted, older, child)
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How are you going to explain her maybe not staying the whole weekend, after you already suggested it?
She hasn't even said for sure if she is staying Saturday night. She wants to see how Friday goes and told me she wouldn't be offended if I didn't want her to stay at all. If I change my mind about Saturday then I really don't think it will be a big deal. If she makes it out to be then I know it's probably good that she isn't staying.
Hm, she seems to have her ducks in a row. To me it looks like she recovered well: Getting her education in order, she is active, she is honest. She served her country and maybe still has PTSD, may be the reason of her breakdown. Not unusual at all and it is not recent.
I would believe her at this point.
And with possible PTSD, the question is can YOU deal with someone with it? Some can, some can't. You are the only one that can answer that question.
And with possible PTSD, the question is can YOU deal with someone with it? Some can, some can't. You are the only one that can answer that question.
I have no idea since I've never dated anyone with PTSD. She went into the military right after high school which would have been from 2004-2012. Sure a lot had to happen within that time span. She said her parents are great and have said nothing but good things about them so I'm assuming the reason for her interest in domestic violence and wanting to help people is because of one of her exes possibly.
She hasn't even said for sure if she is staying Saturday night. She wants to see how Friday goes and told me she wouldn't be offended if I didn't want her to stay at all. If I change my mind about Saturday then I really don't think it will be a big deal. If she makes it out to be then I know it's probably good that she isn't staying.
No, no, no. Have a conversation with her where you tell her that Saturday is a no go. Tell her your excitement over seeing her again caused you to move a little too fast and that you think it's best if you guys just do hockey, the sleepover Friday, and a Saturday run followed by breakfast. SLOW YOUR ROLL means slow your roll.
Wow. It is 2020, and there are still people around who think this way.
Just wow. Carry on, folks.
I don't even know where he got the idea that the kids were demanding the father to be around. The son's father left her when they moved down here and only sees him once a year. She says he doesn't make much effort to see him anymore than that.
She gets her daughter a few times a year and stays in contact with her daily.
So many people up here don't even read what has been wrote and just throw assumptions around.
OP is being just a little bit disingenuous here, though. The story has evolved.
At first it was "She's staying over Friday night and possibly Saturday, because [reasons on HER end]". Followed with a "A little fast for me, but...," which very much implies that she was the one pushing for this sleepover.
People have reacted to this as if it's another red flag that she's moving too fast. People have based their judgments of her on this.
But later, you admit that it was YOU who asked her to stay Friday night, saying "You don't want to drive an hour back home, do you?" It was YOU who in fact asked her to stay the whole weekend.
You also say you've been on a "dry spell" for a while, in response to those suggesting you not sleep with her this weekend.
I think you're gathering of list of reasons why you should end it with her--but only AFTER your weekend romp. I think you're going to do whatever you can to get her in your bed Friday night, no matter what anyone here says. After that it's "Welp, look at all those red flags" city. I'm not saying you're a terrible, scheming person, but I think you might be letting Little Brz do the thinking here.
I ask of my fellow forum members: who should be wary of whom?
OP is being just a little bit disingenuous here, though. The story has evolved.
At first it was "She's staying over Friday night and possibly Saturday, because [reasons on HER end]". Followed with a "A little fast for me, but...," which very much implies that she was the one pushing for this sleepover.
People have reacted to this as if it's another red flag that she's moving too fast. People have based their judgments of her on this.
But later, you admit that it was YOU who asked her to stay Friday night, saying "You don't want to drive an hour back home, do you?" It was YOU who in fact asked her to stay the whole weekend.
You also say you've been on a "dry spell" for a while, in response to those suggesting you not sleep with her this weekend.
I think you're gathering of list of reasons why you should end it with her--but only AFTER your weekend romp. I think you're going to do whatever you can to get her in your bed Friday night, no matter what anyone here says. After that it's "Welp, look at all those red flags" city. I'm not saying you're a terrible, scheming person, but I think you might be letting Little Brz do the thinking here.
I ask of my fellow forum members: who should be wary of whom?
I'm trying to get opinions on these "possible" red flags since I do like this girl so far. If I didn't like her I wouldn't be up here asking.
After we had established her staying Friday night she told me later that her parents were wanting to keep her son the rest of the weekend due to them not having seen him since around Christmas time. Then it was established we would get up in the morning to run and I told her she was welcome to stay Saturday night as well if she wanted. She seemed interested in doing so but came back and said let's see how Friday goes and go from there. I'm 90% sure she will stay Saturday.
I have not said we were for sure having sex. I've gone without it for a few months now. I can wait.
To be completely honest if anything I bet she would be the one to initiate it. I went in for a kiss and she pulled me back in and for a make out session. From what I've seen so far she likes me and the last thing I want to do his hurt someones feelings because I know exactly how it feels.
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