Is this just a little too intense? Or am I just too much of a cat? (communicate)
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He’s putting her needs on a pedestal way too early on in the relationship then. This early on its more of an interview process to figure out if there is chemistry and capability, not about fulfilling her needs.
Why people can't just act normal? Without that desperation, interviews, analyzing, anxieties and trying way too hard?
What happens when all that wears down and you learn that all that was just a big show?
Why people can't just act normal? Without that desperation, interviews, analyzing, anxieties and trying way too hard?
What happens when all that wears down and you learn that all that was just a big show?
That's another reason why I am also careful with dating. Many time guys are just trying to "sell" their image or who they are. I like to take things very SLOW that way we can get to know each other. So when someone gets like this, it's a turn off.
just talk to the guy and let him know you are not a texter and that you are interested in taking things slow. see how he responds. he's probably used to women who are big on texting/selfie etc
Why people can't just act normal? Without that desperation, interviews, analyzing, anxieties and trying way too hard?
What happens when all that wears down and you learn that all that was just a big show?
Idk good question why people can’t act normal. What we do know is this guy isn’t acting “normal”.
I think one thing I forgot to mention that was a red flag, was on Saturday, he sent me a selfie that I had not asked for. I didn't see it right away, but because I didn't respond to his selfie right away, he texted me "So I take it you don't like my photo?"I responded when I finally saw it and told him it was fine I just hadn't seen it when he sent it. Mind you it had only been 10 minutes since he had sent it.
Now that I look at all of this, he does come off as really needy.
This would have been the perfect opportunity to tell him you aren’t on your phone 24/7 and that he shouldn’t read into your replies because you aren’t used to texting this much.
The date had already been set by the time this photo was sent. I think I just tried to go in with an open mind. I mean no one is perfect, but it was something that definitely I noted.
No harm in having an open mind - if you think it's worth it, maybe give him the benefit of the doubt and see if he's just been reacting to terrible advice.
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Originally Posted by thinkertinker
That's another reason why I am also careful with dating. Many time guys are just trying to "sell" their image or who they are. I like to take things very SLOW that way we can get to know each other. So when someone gets like this, it's a turn off.
This is a prime example - maybe he's been friendzoned a bunch of times and his friends (or, worse, online advice) have been telling him to be less reserved and more engaging.
Thanks everyone for the feedback. Now that I have had some time to think I think I am just going to discontinue seeing him and cancel the date. Simple fact that I felt this way and it's only been less than a week since we first communicated, says a lot.
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