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Old 02-15-2020, 08:32 AM
 
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Nobody has suggested that he should "pursue" her. I've suggested that he shouldn't give up hope at this point. There's a big difference.
Okay...

Then...

Specifically how should he act around her then considering she is dating another guy?

Specifically how should he be dealing with his feeling while he is around her knowing she is dating another guy?

Specifically what should he be doing while "waiting" for this relationship with the 2 of them to happen?

How long should he "wait" for this relationship with the 2 of them to happen?

Specifically how should he be dealing with his thoughts and feelings while "waiting" for this relationship to happen?
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Old 02-15-2020, 09:14 AM
 
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Nobody has suggested that he should "pursue" her. I've suggested that he shouldn't give up hope at this point. There's a big difference.
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Okay...

Then...

Specifically how should he act around her then considering she is dating another guy?

Specifically how should he be dealing with his feeling while he is around her knowing she is dating another guy?

Specifically what should he be doing while "waiting" for this relationship with the 2 of them to happen?

How long should he "wait" for this relationship with the 2 of them to happen?

Specifically how should he be dealing with his thoughts and feelings while "waiting" for this relationship to happen?

How should he act around her? Normal. And, as I've said, not bitter or depressed.

Not enough info to answer your other questions.
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Old 02-15-2020, 10:31 AM
 
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How should he act around her? Normal. And, as I've said, not bitter or depressed.
That is if he is able to do that.

And if he is not, then what is your answer?
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Old 02-15-2020, 10:58 AM
 
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Can we officially lock this thread? I'm tired of seeing these two idiots bickering.
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Old 02-15-2020, 10:58 AM
 
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How should he act around her? Normal. And, as I've said, not bitter or depressed.
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That is if he is able to do that.

And if he is not, then what is your answer?

Frankly, I have doubts that he can. That's why I've qualified my comments (and stressed the importance of that) throughout the thread.


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Look, she's not married. You probably still have a chance here if you can keep your cool. Just don't act different around her now. Meaning...don't be bitter or depressed.
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He doesn't need to do anything other than not be a jerk to her.
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IF this dude can keep his act together, he might be surprised how this turns out.
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I strongly advised him to not come across as depressed.
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I specifically said he should do nothing other than not be a jerk to her (or show any signs of depression or bitterness).
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If he can keep his emotions in check, I do think he has a chance.
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Old 02-15-2020, 11:08 AM
 
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Frankly, I have doubts that he can. That's why I've qualified my comments (and stressed the importance of that) throughout the thread.
Then why are you suggesting that?
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Old 02-15-2020, 11:10 AM
 
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Can we officially lock this thread? I'm tired of seeing these two idiots bickering.
Are you able to just be her friend when you are around her knowing she is dating someone else?
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Old 02-15-2020, 12:21 PM
 
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Can we officially lock this thread? I'm tired of seeing these two idiots bickering.
Not entertained anymore? You're the one that put yourself in this situation and posted it on a public forum. People are allowed to discuss. Tired of it? Ignore.
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Old 02-15-2020, 12:59 PM
 
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Can we officially lock this thread? I'm tired of seeing these two idiots bickering.
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Not entertained anymore? You're the one that put yourself in this situation and posted it on a public forum. People are allowed to discuss. Tired of it? Ignore.
IKR

And what's with the name calling, OP?

Idiots?

You're the one who has been standing around like a (dare not say it because of community guidelines) with a woman who has made it obvious that she was into you. And you not only didn't take the initiative, but you wished her "Good luck finding someone to see it with!" Now, she has someone. Then you say things to the effect of "I feel she owes me a chance..." And you ask how to convince your crush to break up with her boyfriend? That doesn't sound particularly intelligent either.
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