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Old 05-11-2020, 12:50 PM
 
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Some opinions why this is are being discussed in the comments section, but I’d like to hear your CD member theories of why a “COVID-19 Divorce Boom” is coming
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Old 05-17-2020, 12:05 AM
 
Location: Gulf Coast
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Mine refuses to be careful in this pandemic. He thinks it is all blown out of proportion. Well what if it is? I still feel we should be careful. If it was the other way around and I didn't care and he did, I wouldn't go out of my way to do things to scare him. We might have cracks in our relationship, but this virus has those cracks looking like the Grand Canyon.
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Old 05-18-2020, 09:59 AM
 
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Mine refuses to be careful in this pandemic. He thinks it is all blown out of proportion. Well what if it is? I still feel we should be careful. If it was the other way around and I didn't care and he did, I wouldn't go out of my way to do things to scare him. We might have cracks in our relationship, but this virus has those cracks looking like the Grand Canyon.
Why do you really think he does this?
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Old 05-18-2020, 10:17 AM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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Mine refuses to be careful in this pandemic. He thinks it is all blown out of proportion. Well what if it is? I still feel we should be careful. If it was the other way around and I didn't care and he did, I wouldn't go out of my way to do things to scare him. We might have cracks in our relationship, but this virus has those cracks looking like the Grand Canyon.

That is a really scary scenario for your health and safety. The virus is still around now and will certainly spike again come winter. If your boyfriend has that cavalier attitude, then anytime you see him he could potentially be infected and could pass the infection on to you. It's like playing with fire.
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Old 05-18-2020, 12:55 PM
 
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If you don't begin the relationship with the same values, priorities, and open communication, something will eventually break you up, whether it's a pandemic, money problems, kids, or whatever else. If being quarantined with someone for two months does the trick, your relationship wasn't all that strong to begin with.
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Old 05-18-2020, 09:50 PM
 
Location: Gulf Coast
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Why do you really think he does this?

Oh, I think he's just so bored and tired of this whole thing. Remember, he was unable to walk for over a month because of his joint operation before most people were even hearing about this virus. So it's been a long time of inactivity for us. And he has ALWAYS felt he is healthy and above getting sick...as stupid an idea as that is...it's nothing new for him. And he's always HATED when I'd caution him to be careful etc. etc. I also think as he ages and has less ability for things he's in a bit of denial and tries to prove his point that he's 'different'. The past couple days he's been especially nice... so I know he understands, if he could only give in and not be so darn proud.
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Old 05-19-2020, 04:10 AM
 
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That is a really scary scenario for your health and safety. The virus is still around now and will certainly spike again come winter. If your boyfriend has that cavalier attitude, then anytime you see him he could potentially be infected and could pass the infection on to you. It's like playing with fire.
Sadly, a lot of my friends have this cavelier attitude. As things started to slowly open up around here...they proudly posted a photo of them ALL crammed into a restaurant booth prior to that,t hey are avid boaters...so the y are all crowded on a boat, selfies...with their faces inches from each other.

They think think the whole social distancing thing is BS as well. With the, "#notlivigninfear" hash tags. Trump supporters obviously. This has even caused some of my friends to leave Facebook altogether.
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Old 05-19-2020, 07:56 AM
 
Location: Chicago, IL
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Sadly, a lot of my friends have this cavelier attitude. As things started to slowly open up around here...they proudly posted a photo of them ALL crammed into a restaurant booth prior to that,t hey are avid boaters...so the y are all crowded on a boat, selfies...with their faces inches from each other.

They think think the whole social distancing thing is BS as well. With the, "#notlivigninfear" hash tags. Trump supporters obviously. This has even caused some of my friends to leave Facebook altogether.

Yes, sadly I saw the same thing too. This weekend on FB, I saw lots of friends out and about with each other, socializing with no masks. I was invited by a friend to go out hiking, and was told they would be doing all the social distancing. When I saw the pics, there were no masks and they were taking pictures right next to each other. Glad I didn't go.
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Old 05-19-2020, 09:52 AM
 
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Oh, I think he's just so bored and tired of this whole thing. Remember, he was unable to walk for over a month because of his joint operation before most people were even hearing about this virus. So it's been a long time of inactivity for us. And he has ALWAYS felt he is healthy and above getting sick...as stupid an idea as that is...it's nothing new for him. And he's always HATED when I'd caution him to be careful etc. etc. I also think as he ages and has less ability for things he's in a bit of denial and tries to prove his point that he's 'different'. The past couple days he's been especially nice... so I know he understands, if he could only give in and not be so darn proud.
The pride and denial thing needs to be put aside when it puts others at risk. He isn't really being nice if he is still putting you at risk, he is being manipulative so you won't give him crap about it.

This is where the rubber meets the road, it is no joke and a real man puts his loved ones first and is willing to do things and look like a blithering idiot in order to keep them safe.

I think a lot of people now are realizing the selfishness and/or level of emotional issues their partners have that was not as apparent or that have not caused real problems until now.
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Old 05-19-2020, 02:53 PM
 
Location: Kentucky
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The shaky situations in life and this pandemic certainly classifies as one really expose people for the better or for the worse.

Several people are realizing that their partner or even themselves aren't all they were cracked up to be in the face of adversity.
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