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After a 4 to 5 month hiatus, I have returned in style! If you recall - and for you newcomers - I was bemoaning my situation last fall... the wife is still lazy as heck and spends money like you wouldn't believe. Just paid off over $20k of her charge card debt to boot.
Have spoken to a good attorney who only practices matrimonial law and we'll be starting the process next week.
Just the idea of being free again makes me giddy.
I'm still living with the missus for the time being but I sure am looking forward to the bachelor lifestyle again.
Nice to see you back, and I'm glad you came to a decision about what to do. You were very torn, it has to be a relief to have made a decision.
I have some divorce tips you might like. If so, say the word I will post them.
Good luck, keep us posted
THANKS! Yeah, the hardest part was coming to accept that I probably won't get physical custody of all 3 kids. And all 3 are much more attached to me than to their mother. But I am hopeful I could at least get custody of my 7 year-old son, who has special needs and with whom my wife has great difficulty dealing. It is likely, though, that my wife will get physical custody of the two girls. I would expect we'll have joint legal custody of all 3.
And yeah, by all means.... hit me with any pearls you may have!
After a 4 to 5 month hiatus, I have returned in style! If you recall - and for you newcomers - I was bemoaning my situation last fall... the wife is still lazy as heck and spends money like you wouldn't believe. Just paid off over $20k of her charge card debt to boot.
Have spoken to a good attorney who only practices matrimonial law and we'll be starting the process next week.
Just the idea of being free again makes me giddy.
I'm still living with the missus for the time being but I sure am looking forward to the bachelor lifestyle again.
Ha, I remember reading your saga when I was only lurking here. People were wondering where you disappeared. Good luck!
Welcome back! You sound happy. Your soon to be ex-wife is lucky that you were both willing and able to pay off her $20K + of credit card debt. How are the kids?
Thanks sierra, Marlow, and robyn! We'll see how this all unfolds. For now, I really am relived that I could finally come to this decision and feel confident it's a correct decision and in the best interest of everyone. And, right now, there is no reason this needs to turn into a nasty battle... it could, as I cannot fully predict my wife's reaction, but my guess is she won't have any issues the notion of a divorce itself, and I am reasonably confident we'll be able to come to an amicable arrangement regarding division of assets and custody.
Where the spam really will hit the fan is when she realizes she'll need to get a friggin' job in order to get by! Other than wanting to see her do a little work, I really don't wish her anything bad at present. And she is fully capable of working... worked part-time from July of 2003 thru February of 2007... again, the idea was for her to make enough money to pay her own darned charge cards, but all she did was to leverage that cash flow into more charge card borrowings and never did pay anything down! But she's an RN and come fall, all 3 kids will be in school full-days during the week... she'll have much more time to herself during the days, then I would presumably have some visitation schedule.
Anyhow, that's where I see the meat of any fight that could be in the offing.... in the amount of money she'd get for child support and/or alimony. She'll be envisioning life to go on as it has for the past few years, with maid service, landscaping service, doody-calls service, and so forth, and I envision a more spartan lifestyle for her... no real change for the kids.
Divorce is never easy, it's costly, it's time consuming, it's like a death. So why do it?
Because life begins again!
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