Anyone can't RE-ignite a fire after it's snuffed out? (guys, love, single)
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So this is not about igniting a fire for the first time, it's about RE-igniting a fire that was once there a while ago. The story goes, you met the first time, there was FIRE and then things ended and you both went your separate ways and had other relationships, but those didn't work out either, and now the other person wants to reunite again but you are unable to because you've already gone through the process of replacing that person in your heart/mind, and this feeling just can't be restored. Anyone else ever feel this way if an ex tries to come back when you both are single again? Like you just don't feel anything for them anymore, not because they did anything wrong to you, but because someone else took up their space in your heart? I only have space for one guy at a time and it's not recyclable.
Am I crazy or what? I just wonder how some people are able to keep recycling. I feel like they must not have felt real love for one or the other then.
Just because an opportunity presents itself doesn't mean you should take it. Some people seem to have this idea in their head that if an opportunity for love comes knocking...you need to take it. Even if you don't think you feel anything for the person. Take a chance anyway, because love is worth it. Yeah no. I'm not one of those people. Once you move on, you move on. It isn't that serious and never will be. Also we can't decide whether or not two people are in love, just because they may or may not run back to an ex. You just live your life.
Just because an opportunity presents itself doesn't mean you should take it. Some people seem to have this idea in their head that if an opportunity for love comes knocking...you need to take it.
So this is not about igniting a fire for the first time, it's about RE-igniting a fire that was once there a while ago. The story goes, you met the first time, there was FIRE and then things ended and you both went your separate ways and had other relationships, but those didn't work out either, and now the other person wants to reunite again but you are unable to because you've already gone through the process of replacing that person in your heart/mind, and this feeling just can't be restored. Anyone else ever feel this way if an ex tries to come back when you both are single again? Like you just don't feel anything for them anymore, not because they did anything wrong to you, but because someone else took up their space in your heart? I only have space for one guy at a time and it's not recyclable.
Am I crazy or what? I just wonder how some people are able to keep recycling. I feel like they must not have felt real love for one or the other then.
I'll be in the dissent. I would question the actual depth and reality of the feelings someone had the first time around if the feeling cannot be recaptured. If your innate feelings has softened I would suspect the reason you think you liked the person then had more to do your life then, and what was in your life, as opposed to the person.
I'll be in the dissent. I would question the actual depth and reality of the feelings someone had the first time around if the feeling cannot be recaptured. If your innate feelings has softened I would suspect the reason you think you liked the person then had more to do your life then, and what was in your life, as opposed to the person.
There is no right or wrong in your situation. Is simply how you going to choose and move forward. If you don’t have the same feeling, then you don’t. Nothing can be done about it. There is nothing weird about it simply because everyone else can recycle but you can’t.
Live your own life and don’t worry about what the majority people would or would not do.
You sounds like an amazing person. I wish you good luck in life.
There is no right or wrong in your situation. Is simply how you going to choose and move forward. If you don’t have the same feeling, then you don’t. Nothing can be done about it. There is nothing weird about it simply because everyone else can recycle but you can’t.
Live your own life and don’t worry about what the majority people would or would not do.
You sounds like an amazing person. I wish you good luck in life.
Am I crazy or what? I just wonder how some people are able to keep recycling. I feel like they must not have felt real love for one or the other then.
I think some guys contact an ex because it's just easier and less work for them, to call up someone from their past, than to go out looking for a new person. They know what pushes your buttons. They know what you used to like, and what they can say, that will work on you to go back to them. Call it laziness maybe.
Probably wouldn't last long. Old problems from the previous relationship you had will come up again.
For me, getting back with an ex is like digging in a dumpster.
Some people love dumpster diving.
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