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You changed his coffee invite to a dinner invite at a restaurant you picked. That means you are hosting.
When he says he'll split it with you, that means you're only picking up 1/2 of the total.
In future know it is considered rude to change a person's invite & not expect to pick up the entire tab. It doesn't matter who has more money-- it's just manners.
Yep. He was going to take you for coffee -- $15 proposition. You asked for dinner at a specific restaurant -- anywhere from $40-150. You come off as greedy. If you up the ante, YOU should be paying. He's not a money machine for your personal use.
Well it was pretty rude of you to pick a place, ask him to go there, and expect him to pay. You basically invited him but also invited him to pay. Maybe he's getting tired of the situation.
Agree. Not sure it was very rude exactly, but a woman should contribute, and 1 out of every 4 times paying isn't unfair. Just because he makes more doesn't mean he should ALWAYS pay. He will feel used.
And also, just because he makes more, doesn't mean that you have to match him dollar for dollar. It's okay for him to pick up the tab at the fancy restaurant, and you pick up the Thai takeout and $10 bottle of wine. The effort counts more than the money.
He's treated you to three nice dinners and wine. It's time for you to pay for a meal or at least be prepared to do so. If he offers while out than consider yourself lucky.
I know this man (40 y old) who earns quite well, and he have been treating me to nice dinners and great wine (he paid) the last three times - and I always paid for dessert. So today we were texting, he wanted to meet up and I suggested this restaurant... and asked if we could go there? He agreed and said it was a good idea...
Then I told him thanks, and that I will pay for dessert, when we've finished... then he replied: It's ok, we will share.
Does he mean that we will share the dessert only or is he expecting me to pay half of the dinner also?
I don't mind going dutch, but I'm used to him paying... and he's richer than me.
Please help what do I do?
Whoa man. He was probably taking you out for coffee to dump you.
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Originally Posted by skaternum
Yep. He was going to take you for coffee -- $15 proposition. You asked for dinner at a specific restaurant -- anywhere from $40-150. You come off as greedy. If you up the ante, YOU should be paying. He's not a money machine for your personal use.
She seems to think he is.
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