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If it's a man flirting with a woman, compliment a "non-sexual" area of her body - like her hands - "I love your hands, your fingers are so slender, or your nails look so nice...."
I wouldn't start out complimenting her on her hands --->
I have been wondering if my neighbor has been flirting with me (not the neighbor that died, obviously).
He walks around the block every day and when I am out gardening he smiles really big and says "Hi, moongirl!" "How are you?"
Today he complicated my flowers I was watering.
He's cute but damn he looks young. I like it though. He seems sweet. Maybe he is just being friendly and neighborly though. But most neighbors walk by and just wave a little.
The first thing to do when you flirt is to have a big, power-ball winning, confident, smile.
Flirting from across a room: Catch that persons eye, stare at them for a little longer than you would if you weren't any bit interested, and give a big smile.
Flirting once conversation is initiated: Ask LOTS of questions about them. Human nature is that we love to talk about ourselves and we find it charming if someone is interested in us. If it's a man flirting with a woman, compliment a "non-sexual" area of her body - like her hands - "I love your hands, your fingers are so slender, or your nails look so nice...."
If a woman is flirting with a man, compliment him on something work related, "Wow you must've really worked hard to get to where you are" or "That's incredible that you're doing something like that to help others...etc"
NEVER make a negative statement about something the other person has said. Example, if they say "I love New York City" don't say "I Hate It - it's so noisy, smelly etc...." (Save your negative opinions for later in the relationship!). Instead, say "What do you love so much about it? What's your favorite thing to do there?"
Flirting is EASY!!! I wish I could teach a class.
The compliments you reserve for men work very well for women, too. With some women, they work a lot better than compliments about superficial appearance. Studies have been done in the past with university women, who say they're depressed, because their male colleagues who want to socialize with and date them NEVER ask them what their field of study is, what their educational or life goals are, or any substantive questions at all, that would indicate the men would like to get to know the women as people.
Women don't want to hear that their nails look nice. If that's actually worked for you, DJKB, I guess you and I move in very different circles. I thought your post started out well, actually, but I had to comment on the main part, to provide a different perspective for some of the struggling guys who look to C-D for guidance.
That's exactly what I thought! There's an unspoken "and I'd like to wear them as a necklace" in that sentence.
Yes, that and the "you are so healthy..." really tip it into **shudder** territory.
Mod cut.
In my experience, you signal interest by smiling and making eye contact. Give them attention. If you're in a situation where you can interact, you respond positively to what they say.
Once you establish a rapport, you can pull out the professional flirty banter.
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Flirting? You either have it or you don’t. Using a formula is creepy.
Oh...I don't know. I mean, it's not exactly like following a recipe to bake a cake, but I DO think it's something that people can practice on, and hone their skills over.
Some people are naturals, and some people have had to learn over time, what 'works' and what doesn't.
To me, it seems like the main thing to figure out is if the other person is receptive. Can you even get your foot in the door? And I find that there's a fine line between being friendly and open, and being flirty. Or maybe it's better to say the line is blurry and blends.
That's exactly what I thought! There's an unspoken "and I'd like to wear them as a necklace" in that sentence.
Okay - maybe a bad example . But who doesn't like to get a compliment? Maybe on your smile/shoes/purse/earings...IDK! Not your boobs or legs! And definitely NOT as a conversation opener!
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"How are you?" 
. But who doesn't like to get a compliment? Maybe on your smile/shoes/purse/earings...IDK! Not your boobs or legs! And definitely NOT as a conversation opener!
