Do I sound like I’m overreacting with my perspective?

[reneeh63]

Originally Posted by bebe182

Ok so you got a sick dog, it sucks but it happens. A friend of mine adopted a puppy a year later she found out the dog had cancer and it passed away, she doesn't walk around saying her life is miserable. This stuff happens, it can be sad, and it's ok to be sad about but doesn't mean you should be miserable about it for the rest of your life.

If your neighbor is that bad and it's unbearable, moving is always an option. As far as dating being proactive is only half the battle, if once they meet you in person and you're acting miserable and having the "woe is me" mentality no guy is going to want to stick around for that no matter how attractive you are.

Friendships and relationships take effort to maintain, so if you're not willing to put in any effort don't expect to have these things.

It does sound like therapy may be of help to you.

To be fair, it is hard when a pet dies - though arguably that's not as bad as having a pet for 10 years and it dies rather than when basically still a puppy. And in the OP's case it is a health issue that will require ongoing effort. Most people don't realize until they are older that long-term chronic issues definitely take the energy from you.

The OP certainly can move - but it's not as easy when you own a condo rather than are just renting. If you'd just bought a place, the last thing you want to think about is looking for a new place to buy, going through all the financing and moving again.

So I get it, OP. I think you may be depressed and are lacking energy and any optimism. At the least you need to find some hobbies that are actually fun for you - some you can do on your own and others to get you out with more people. Making your life more enjoyable will help distract from the things that aren't and that you may not be able to easily change.

[BirdieBelle]

Since you asked ...

Based on your posts here, you have a HUGE sense of entitlement.

You see yourself as a victim in every situation. You think everyone is against you and take NO ownership of how your actions affect situations.

Yes, you're dramatic, and yes, you're passively aggressive about getting things your way. The fact that you've called the police on your neighbor so many times is proof of that. Instead of simply understanding that noise is part of living under someone, you doggedly pursue revenge.

Something is up. Until you dedicate yourself to getting help so you understand the motivations behind your actions, you'll continue to be miserable and push others away.

[rrah]

You don't understand how a person your age can be lonely and yet you do nothing to maintain friendships. Do you see the dissonance of those two statements?

You think you're attractive and are entitled to dates with attractive people. That's one reason people think you are dramatic.

We make our own "luck." One's ability to persevere and be resilient changes our attitudes. One can whine and complain abou the lack of luck or one can get up and change one's life. And I agree with the above--we receive what we put out there into the universe.

[zentropa]

OP, the more you post, the more I believe you are a very sick young woman. The only way you are going to have a better life is to make an appointment with a psychiatrist for a mental health evaluation and get recommendations for the right kind of therapist. Your disorders are specific and require specialized treatment, including medication.