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What would you tell a friend of yours who wrote all the stuff you're written about him? Would you advise her to work on it, as if there's something to salvage here? Subject herself to more disrespect and cruelty?
Wake up, woman. This is a ****show. Walk away, while there's still some dignity left.
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How much more proof you need that he is NOT into you???
FWB maybe, but not real feelings and he doesn't care how you feel.
Show some self respect and end it!
I just hate the fact that he does in fact seem very controlling, and wants to control me by buying me stuff and being nice, taking me to his work trips and me staying on hotels, taking me to restaurants and sh**t, but Honestly I feel as if he did not respect me a 100%, and when I tell him things that I don’t like he gets very bitchy about it and he goes from being sweet and nice for a period of time, to being mean, like an *******, like INDIFFERENT, basically after me getting mad at him and telling him what I see wrong, he acts like this, like if I have to kiss his a** afterwards, when he is at fault with this.
My question is how can I act towards him when he acts like this , like he is always right, ex: he is the rock and I am the egg, I feel he needs a reality check, either he is in love with me or not at all ( and I think the last).
Plus he tries to make me jealous at times, I just don’t get this weird behavior, perhaps age difference??
How can you act? YOU DON'T. Forget his wide mood swings, wishy-washy BS. Who needs that?! Just be done w/ him! Why in the hell would you want a guy who's nice one day or minute then mean the next & back & forth & all that hoopla?
How can you act? YOU DON'T. Forget his wide mood swings, wishy-washy BS. Who needs that?! Just be done w/ him! Why in the hell would you want a guy who's nice one day or minute then mean the next & back & forth & all that hoopla?
Hi everyone, the issue that I am having is that my bf has not told any of his dead ex wife ( she died last year in july) friends or people that he knows in common with her that I exist and that I am his girlfriend , yesterday I told him about it, because every time that a person that was a friend of his ex wife calls him ( besides the fact that he inherited her house and some other belongings) he just leaves the room or tells me to not speak, and the same thing happened with her when she was still alive. She did not know I existed....
My question is if they all know about me, about the fact that he has a girlfriend etc, can this affect the inheritance?, him being the will keeper and owner?[/b]
I need your honest opinion, what is up with this, he told me he had already explain to me why, honestly I don’t even remember that explanation, but he sure did not refresh my mind yesterday.
Few notes:
I don't like that his wife dies after divorce and he inherited her house, did she die naturally or he caused it? I would not feel good staying with him if any at all he caused her either the sickness or death. (I am expecting to be called paranoid here, but ask yourself what are things you do not know about him.)
You don't know who could not have kids, maybe he can not have kids and he doesn't want you to learn neither that nor any other of bad things from the people he is hiding you from. I don't expect they have too much good to say to you about him, (just from experience).
You are 31 and a lot of 25 to 40 are out there worthier to be with. You are better of leaving (unless you have some personal profiting reasons to stay with him), but I am afraid he's claiming you his, and you may not be able to separate in a civilized manner. He's proud to have 31 year old chick next to his 47 year old d.... You want children so go out and have them with someone who wants kids and would love you to his grave because you gifted him with his blood line.
My coworker would celebrate his life to have someone with him of that sort, but he's having no luck.
This makes zero sense. Being engaged is not a legal status. You are married or you are not married (divorced is the same as not married, separated is the same as married, engaged is the same as not married).
1. It's only been a year, maybe less, since his (ex-)wife died. He may be thinking, that the ex's side would be shocked, that he already has a gf, and is not observing a proper mourning period.
2. He's afraid the ex's people would be shocked to know he's been with you since even before the divorce. That makes the situation especially awkward. How is he supposed to introduce you to them? "This is the woman I was having.an affair with, before the divorce"? He's probably struggling with that. We don't know if he and the ex had a legal separation first, during which he may have met the OP. More info needed.
3. It's a good sign, that he's introduced you to everyone else. Give him some time with the ex's people.
I don't see how his having a gf would affect the inheritance. I doubt there's a clause in it stating, that if he finds a new love interest, he loses the property. I wouldn't worry about that.
edit: But I see I'm out-voted by the others here. Maybe sometimes I"m too optimistic...?
knives out ?
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Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth
Here's my take. There's a lot we don't know about this scenario. It's not clear when the OP got together with her guy, and where his marriage or divorce proceedings were at, when they got together. Maybe part ofthe 2-1/2 years overlapped with the marriage. We need more info about the chronology of events.
But the ex died a year ago. Had she been seriously ill for quite awhile before that? Could there be good reason he didn't tell her he'd moved on? ("Hi, Exie. Sorry to hear about your cancer struggle. By the way, I have a new gf 15 years younger than me. Take care, ok? Let me know what the doctors say." )
It seems like it's been a tough 2-1/2 years in some ways, with some ups and downs, a divorce to settle (rarely easy), a fatal illness on the part of the ex, yet she left him her house in spite of the divorce, and who knows what else has gone on.
He couldn't tell the ex about the gf while she was alive, if he knew he was going to inherit the house. So the only time he could even broach the subject with the ex's friends, would have been since last July, and it would have been very poor timing to do that within months of their close friend or relative passing away. So with all that in mind, he couldn't really propose marriage to the OP, either. He may be waiting for all the paperwork, probate, etc. on the house to clear, and then catch his breath, and start focussing on the OP more.
He's told everyone else about the two of them, which I view as a sign that he could well be serious about the OP. But...that's just me, I guess.
bob kraft ?
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you better see yourself out
Maybe sometimes I"m too optimistic...?
