Is dating a Supervisor you work with possible? Have you ever dated your boss? (love, hubby)
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It depends, how much of an issue is the worst case scenario? (that either or both of you have to leave)
Is this a "job" or a "career"?
How easily could you replace it with new income if things turn sideways?
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You neither be the first nor the last to pursue a relation at work or with a superior, but if the world around you is any indicator, you'd see that even the intelligent that pursue this wind up in pretty stupid situations if it's a job they care about.
If you two are working in a restaurant or something else where you are recognised for where you are working, then go for it. Million other places that do more or less the same thing.
If you are working as a lawyer, engineer etc where your name is your personal brand within the industry and both competences and positions are unique (regardless of what company you happen to be at for the moment), don't. This is because like most companies, the most powerful asset you have is the accomplishments you attach to your name, and screwing your boss is going to tarnish what ever else is on there.
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BTW: you should worry about gossip. Gossip ruins everything.
True.
The main issue with gossip is that it never remains gossip when a consequence is possible.
It's not that people are talking crap behind you, it's that it reaches people above you in the organisation and impacts either directly by firing the boss who is part of the relationship, or indirectly by negative treatment in assignments, being looked over for promotions, tougher starting position when re-negotiating salaries etc.
The best possible outcome would be: one of you would get reassigned so the Boss-subordinate role no longer exists. But I could definitely see the supervisor getting canned (Or demoted) instead, for their absolute lack of common sense.
It’s just a bad idea all around...
Yep & to actually be fired, my fiance' thinks there's even more to it than just that. Of course, fiance's brother lies all the time so can't find out the truth out of him.
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It's a great idea if you're a short-sighted idiot who can't imagine all the possible consequences--both in your personal life and your career. Not to mention your boss if you're caught.
Glad I could help.
Wow. Harsh! I met my now husband at work.... Why be so mean??
Me and my husband met at work. He was the supervisor! Hahaha the op title of this thread made me laugh when I saw the word supervisor. Anyway, I truly do not understand why people are so harsh and critical about relationships in the workplace.
We did it and it worked fine! We have been married almost 3 years. We both don't work there anymore. He now works as a supervisor with a major airline and I am a stay at home mom.
Please try to be less judgemental and critical- those of you in here saying people are idiots- that's very mean and obviously not true since there have been many successful relationships and they met at work.
Obviously it depends on the type of person; if you are immature and can't remain professional, then it isn't for you....
[quote=Forever Blue;58636473]Who are you calling silly? Like I'm supposed to know that. [/quote;] Yes, because I assume people read the 4 pages of the thread before posting. Oh well.
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So this is pretty much what I was talking about my finace's loser brother going w/ his subordinate, so he committed sexual misconduct. So now you see why I naturally assumed you were talking about that bit of pop culture when I was posting before. It's just ironic that the poster you're talking about happesns to have th username Zentropa of all usernames. Anyway, no hard feelings!
Wow, odd coincidence!
I'd never heard the word, "Zentropa", until joining C-D.
Me and my husband met at work. He was the supervisor! Hahaha the op title of this thread made me laugh when I saw the word supervisor. Anyway, I truly do not understand why people are so harsh and critical about relationships in the workplace.
We did it and it worked fine! We have been married almost 3 years. We both don't work there anymore. He now works as a supervisor with a major airline and I am a stay at home mom.
Please try to be less judgemental and critical- those of you in here saying people are idiots- that's very mean and obviously not true since there have been many successful relationships and they met at work.
Obviously it depends on the type of person; if you are immature and can't remain professional, then it isn't for you....
Meeting someone at work isn't the same as dating your direct supervisor. If there had been layoffs, do you think your now-husband would have made a professional and objective assessment of whether you should keep your job?
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Not really
Of course every workplace is different, but everywhere I've ever worked (large corporations) has had a written policy regarding workplace romantic relationships. I would say it's pretty common for supervisors to be forbidden from dating their direct reports (or lower-level employees within their reporting hierarchy). There's just too much potential for conflict of interest and liability.
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Of course every workplace is different, but everywhere I've ever worked (large corporations) has had a written policy regarding workplace romantic relationships. I would say it's pretty common for supervisors to be forbidden from dating their direct reports (or lower-level employees within their reporting hierarchy). There's just too much potential for conflict of interest and liability.
Ita....but some women can be super aggressive. I've seen it at my own work AND at my fiance's. It's an unexpected plus now that he works from home most days cause of covid.....
If you want to date a coworker, especially if someone is in your department or if it's your supervisor, before actually dating them, do two things:
1. ask a trusted union and/or human resources person
2. ask a respective boss if applicable
3. Read your contract to see what is states.
You have to judge who to ask.
Expect the answer to simply be "no"
Just by simply having to ask could be a risk for your job.
Be prepared for one of you to be willing to quit your job to date so that you and the other person won't have a bad mark on your record.
There is a right way to do this which is the above, but you may not like that.
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