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"If you still watch the Office as you long for the days when people like Michael Scott didn't get fired for saying dumb things, and you like to imagine what California must have been like in the 70s, hit me up with a wink or smile."
Not at all political or polarizing. Only hints at NOSTALGIA for eras perceived as being more free. That's probably it, I would probably be compatible with a woman moved by nostalgia, and NOT wanting to engineer society for the future.
If you want to trigger nostalgia, I would refer to times that weren't universal examples of how NOT to do it.
I've seen every episode of The Office, some multiple times,and Michael Scott is a lovable idiot who should have been fired multiple times. Not sure that's the best example of what you're trying to say.
As for California in the 70s, that's the kind of reference that works ONLY if you ignore the many negatives that existed then.
I get what you're trying to do. You just aren't there yet. This feels like an effort into which you'll put a ton of work but won't pay off the way you want. You will just have to keep trying and hope for the best like the rest of us.
Because if you are a normal, sane person, your politics should be about 1% of who you are.
I don't know that that's fair--you don't have to be an extremist, but politics affect people's lives in different ways. Look at our culture now--if you're a small business owner, or an immigrant, or a teacher, or transgender, or a farmer, and on and on--things that are happening in the political realm are really important to how you live your life and conduct your business. It's not abnormal or insane to care about politics.
I also wonder how attractive it is to mock people who don't believe as you (talking disparagingly about being "Woke" and using the "cancel culture" meme) you also remove probably every non-white woman from your dating pool.
Then there is the idea you put out there that your own friends are "deranged." Unkind.
I don't know that that's fair--you don't have to be an extremist, but politics affect people's lives in different ways. Look at our culture now--if you're a small business owner, or an immigrant, or a teacher, or transgender, or a farmer, and on and on--things that are happening in the political realm are really important to how you live your life and conduct your business. It's not abnormal or insane to care about politics.
What OP is talking about is not politics.
It's about social media-driven culture wars. You know, the thing that is tearing apart friendships, families and the public trust.
I went back up and checked the choices on your poll.
Here's the thing: the very wording that you chose for the third option is off-putting. You should have stopped while you were ahead before adding the final zinger, i.e., "...check your privilege and not man-splain." It was unnecessary and very telling. I can see why you might be frustrated with online dating due to current events and in your locale, but the language that you're choosing to use is in itself quite polarizing even if you don't intend to come across that way.
Put it this way (and once again, I only speak for myself): if you wrote something along the lines of what Sassy suggested, I'd be interested in going out at least once with a person such as yourself and likely have a very good time and some interesting conversations with you. Write something that you originally thought to write or take the nostalgia route, and I'd pass.
Just as most people had "two 'fifties and a 'seventies" and didn't align with the popular modern interpretation of the 1960s (in particular, the mid-to-late 'sixties), most of us are neither ardent MAGA supporters nor part of the "woke/cancel culture."
In order to find the type of woman you seek, you need to fish using the correct bait to lure her into that first meeting.
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Anybody who draws a political line in the sand of any kind on a dating website should be avoided.
Because if you are a normal, sane person, your politics should be about 1% of who you are.
Right??? I refuse to date liberals for the past years because I don't want to hear their complaining all day. Seems like most democrats life's have been ruined. I am not political at all but I refuse to listen to excessive president shaming. I have so many friends who are obsessed with turning every little thing that goes wrong in their life political. Enough already.
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