I don't know what else to do but come on here and ask. I've tried to talk to him about it, I've tried to be so so patient with him about everything.
We met online and he seemed very enthusiastic about sex, as all guys do online.
Then after we were dating for a few months, one day I noticed during sex that he was not as ... um rigid as usual.
So I asked him point blank about it a few days later.
At that time I was worried about getting together with someone with issues down there long term.
He said "Oh that's normal. It happens to all guys."
I was like hell no it doesn't! It's never happened to a guy who was with me before. Never ever happened to my ex and he was 3 yrs older than my hubby and we had sex very very often.
I was very confused. But just thought maybe I was being too upfront about the whole thing. So I layed off the poor guy for a while.
Well shortly after that, about a month or so, the sex started to dwindle. Like he hardly ever initiated sex anymore. And I have a very high sex drive. So high that I couldn't wait for him to initiate and I would. It began to be me starting things about 9 times out of 10 or more.
Okay now fast forward a year. We are married, had a baby, I got big with the belly, and now I'm thin again. I am attractive, as I've been told numerous times by others so I don't know why he wouldn't be attracted to me, but maybe that's it. We have a great marriage and relationship and love each other so much.
He is so loving and caring all other times. But when it comes to the sack he never initiates sex, doesn't compliment me enough, and never just gets a hard on when I'm just naked. And in bed he often just lays there letting me do all the work. Most of the time I'm so horny that I don't care, I'll do anything. Sometimes, it takes work to get him hard and keep him there. Most times when I initiate I find that it works best right away in the morning. But that means he is tired and doesn't do anything to please me, barely even opens his eyes. Ugh!
I've talked to him about all this a number of times, but not about the physical problem he may have as I don't want to insult him or embarrass him.
The last time I asked him he said he had stopped initiating because he was worried our relationship might be just based on sex. He never told me this before, and I wonder if this is for real or just another excuse. Then he said but his mojo has been coming back lately and he has been initiating more often and been into it more when I initiate things. Which is sorta true. He started things a couple times the last week or 2.
Another thing that may have something to do with it all too is that he has constantly stared at other girls whenever we went out together. Even after I made it clear how much it hurt my feelings. Now I don't just mean a quick glance here and there. It was like he was constantly scanning the perimeter for girls. And when he found one to look at he'd stare, and sometimes do double and even triple take looks. And I noticed a trend too. Very young girls who were thin. YUCK! After months and months of talking about it, he has finally started not doing this as much, thank god, but how long it will last I don't know.
Does he have a low libido? Sexual problems? Is he just not into me, and I should just get out of this marriage before he cheats on me?
I know that a good relationship is more than just sex, but man, sex is like breathing for me.