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Nope, don't talk to her from time to time, every month, every other week, etc. It will only be that much harder to get her out of your mind. Make a CLEAN BREAK & keep it that way, end of story.
If she ever contacts you back & wants to try again, etc., don't even answer.
Thanks for all your replies! they definetely helped.
my ex gf contacted me last friday and wanted to spend a day with me and her daughter in a children's playground. I agreed to it and as we spent the day there, we mutually agreed to detach emotionally from each other slowly by seeing each other every other weekend, and contact less each week, so we dont have to torture each other through this breakup. This was exactly what I wanted when we broke up 3 weeks ago but I'm not sure how it's gonna go. I already miss her, but it's strage because i know i don't wanna be with her. Can we really detach from each other like this? or is it gonna make everything more complicated? anyone experienced something like this?
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I'm glad you realize you can't be with her because you can't be welcoming of her child.
Most men, if they meet a wonderful woman and have great sex and great chemistry just decide to keep the woman but make the child's life absolutely miserable.
I don't see a problem with getting together occasionally, and work out of this kind of slowly.
Who knows, maybe you'll even come to see some value in this child, who's had a rough go of it in the beginning of her life?
Thanks for all your replies! they definetely helped.
my ex gf contacted me last friday and wanted to spend a day with me and her daughter in a children's playground. I agreed to it and as we spent the day there, we mutually agreed to detach emotionally from each other slowly by seeing each other every other weekend, and contact less each week, so we dont have to torture each other through this breakup. This was exactly what I wanted when we broke up 3 weeks ago but I'm not sure how it's gonna go. I already miss her, but it's strage because i know i don't wanna be with her. Can we really detach from each other like this? or is it gonna make everything more complicated? anyone experienced something like this?
Did you really read the replies??
This is a terrible idea. You should not have met with her.
Thanks for all your replies! they definetely helped.
my ex gf contacted me last friday and wanted to spend a day with me and her daughter in a children's playground. I agreed to it and as we spent the day there, we mutually agreed to detach emotionally from each other slowly by seeing each other every other weekend, and contact less each week, so we dont have to torture each other through this breakup. This was exactly what I wanted when we broke up 3 weeks ago but I'm not sure how it's gonna go. I already miss her, but it's strage because i know i don't wanna be with her. Can we really detach from each other like this? or is it gonna make everything more complicated? anyone experienced something like this?
Be honest.... what do you think? What would you tell a friend? Pull the band-aid off slow or pull it off fast?
On the plus side you get to spend more time with the spoiled child that you don't like. *A date on a playground no less - Snicker.
I hope you use this as a learning experience to not date single moms anymore, since you aren't emotionally ready to deal with the risk of another "spoiled young kid".
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