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I am a 22M and have been experiencing sexual confusion lately, seemingly out of nowhere. Some days I don’t think about it at all, and other days it consumes me and ruins an otherwise productive day. From a young age, I have been turned on by people of both genders, but this is more on a shallow level, if you know what I mean. I never wanted to hook up with a guy or anything of that sort, but I would occasionally be turned on if we were in a situation that was relatively similar, such as swimming or something like that. I went to an all-guys high school and didn’t have my first girlfriend until I was 16. She was the only girl I really hung out with while I was in high school (we were friends before we dated), and I asked her out because I was genuinely attracted to her (not because of society or anything like that). Just slow-dancing with her at my prom turned me on, and I thought about her nonstop before I finally asked her out. We only hooked up one time because we had a relatively short relationship, and I did have a little trouble, but it was my first time ever and I attributed it to nerves (because I was strongly turned on by her both before and after that one fluke experience). We did similar actions after that, but never full-on penetration, but regardless I was turned on just by being in her presence, let alone when we fooled around.
I have not been in a relationship since we broke up. I have gone on one date, but that went absolutely nowhere and I realized I wasn’t as attracted to that girl as I thought I was before. Also, just a few weeks ago, I met a girl at a school event that I thought was attractive, and I was turned on just by talking to her. We set a date and everything, but she blew me off before we went and we haven’t talked since. This all seems straightforward so far, but here is where it takes a weird turn. In the past few months, I have had a couple of sexual dreams involving guys (some months there were not just a couple, but several, of these dreams). One even took place the week I was supposed to go out with the last girl I was talking to. This definitely messed with my head for a day or so, but I happened to have the same type of dream about a girl just 2 nights later, which put me back in the right mindset for the date. Of course, the girl later blew me off, but I was afraid that, if the date went really well, I would not be able to perform if push came to shove because of the other dreams I’d been having. I assumed if that happened on this date, it would’ve meant that I stopped liking girls altogether. On days that I am really obsessed with this, I keep looking at every girl I see and try to picture myself dating her, and I will worry if none of them stand out to me.
Part of me feels like I am only being irrational, because I am part of the camp that thinks you are born with your sexuality and it is out of your control. I still don’t picture myself hooking up or spending my life with a man, but one day, I will worry I am going to someday stop liking girls just in the snap of a finger, and the next day, I see a pretty girl in a restaurant or bar and can’t help staring at her and I decide I’m only being irrational. Anyway, what are your inputs on all of this, because everything is otherwise going well at my age, but this is definitely interfering?
Maybe you were born “this way“ but it didn’t come to your consciousness until recently.
What way? I have said I am still attracted to girls, that never has changed. As recently as yesterday, I saw a girl in the university cafeteria that was attractive. But ever since my sudden wondering, I irrationally worry about it. There have been some situations with both genders where I have only noticed the girls and not the guys, and others vice versa (although noticing the guys only is much less frequent). People do say though that anybody on this path will eventually come to only like the same sex, so I want to know if this is true.
Mine’s a bit opposite. I’ve always been straight, but porn showed me more of a bi side. Indulge! At the end of the day, sex is just sex. What you need to focus on is who you want to be more deeply intimate with. For me, I like a sexual encounter with another guy, but any meaningful intimacy has to be with a woman.
Mine’s a bit opposite. I’ve always been straight, but porn showed me more of a bi side. Indulge! At the end of the day, sex is just sex. What you need to focus on is who you want to be more deeply intimate with. For me, I like a sexual encounter with another guy, but any meaningful intimacy has to be with a woman.
I can’t picture myself hooking up with a guy. I have tried to picture it, and sometimes I can but it very rarely adds up for me. I can’t picture myself in any sort of intimate hookup, but it’s been so long I’ve probably just gotten so used to not having it.
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